Episode 160: Closing the Loops and Make Progress in Your Life

Episode 160: Closing the Loops and Make Progress in Your Life

Ladies, I feel like we have been moving through so much learning the last few weeks that we need to bring some things together and actually move forward in applying an having the things we learned sink in and take roots.  So, that is what we are going to be talking about in this episode. How to close those loops. You know we are always learning new ideas, getting new inspiration…but when we don’t do anything with it or complete what we started, it leaves us feeling frustrated, behind and that is where the guilt starts to kick in.  I don’t want that for me and I don’t want that for you.

If you are new to the show, welcome.  I am so glad you are here. We just finished a series on stress, then went into a series about creating the homes that we long for (like cleaning, organizing, home keeping type stuff) and last week we were talking about career stuff.  It’s like our lives as working moms…all the things. And if you are in all the things without some organization and moments to just breath….well friends, that is where all the negativity breeds. For those of you that are new, we are all about taking away that negative, focusing on the good and the blessings and helping you create more balance in your life.

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Ok, back to our topic.  Ladies this has been on my mind simmering for weeks.  A few weeks back we had Jenny Walsh on the show. And we were talking about the habits that create the mess in our houses.  The habits that create overwhelm. It was a huge light bulb moment for me, I’ll be honest. She talked about finishing a loop.  One of the examples she gave was a cup of coffee. If you want to have a cup of coffee, you get out the cup, make the coffee, put away your supplies, drink the coffee, wash the cup and put it away.  The loop is complete and ready to redo it the next day. Nothing is left undone.

First off, easier said than done.  But we can write what the loops look like for us.  For me, the loop is complete when the cup is in the dishwasher.

But this is what I have been thinking about so much…..what other loops are left undone in my life?  What other things do I start and leave open that are causing stress, anxiety, clutter in my mind and in my life?  I know that this is a big and vague topic, but I felt compelled to share and think that it will benefit someone. I just know it will.

Alright, so we talk about the 8 areas of life right?  This is where you will want to grab your notebook because I am going to walk you through an exercise to see what open loops you have.

Here are the actions to take:

I want you to write down all 8 areas of life.  Faith, marriage, parenting, career, health, financial, home, friends/fun….Got them all?  Good.

Next, I want you to think about what is undone?  What goals are unrealized? Dreams that are not stared?  Tasks that are not complete?

The undone has a silent way of weighing us done and making life hard without us even realizing it.  I say this all the time, but sometimes we need to bring things out into the light, see them for what they are to take away their power.

Some of the things that come up for you in this process might be small things, or they might be big things.  You might not have anything for one area and a lot for others.

Once you have journaled these out, take a few moments to pray about them.  Maybe go for a walk, clear your head and let God really speak to you. Some of the things that came up for you-you might come to peace with letting go of and other things you might be really convicted to take action on and finish the loop.

I’ll share two with you that have been weighing me down.  One is easy, and simple. When I started my job and decided to add it into what I was already doing ( for those of you that don’t know, My husband and I own two businesses together and I went back to the corporate world back in January) I wanted to travel more.  Invest in my marriage in more date nights and weekends away. It’s easy to say we are to busy or can’t afford it. Well, even with that as an intention, we are still not doing it. We went away last march….like 7 months ago and it was a research trip for one of our businesses.  I had no idea how exhausting it was to carry that thought around in the back of my mind “we need to plan a getaway” We need to go somewhere and do something…..It was always there. If I go back to all my 90-day planning sheets from the Life Balance system under marriage….it’s there.  Yet I wasn’t completing the loop. So it was weighing me down. Well, last week, we intentionally closed the loop and scheduled a two-day getaway. Done! Now I can move on. It felt like a ton of weight was lifted.

Now the second one is not as easy and simple.  It’s something that I have been talking about and procrastinating about and making more complex than it needed to be.  And if I am honest, I do this with so much stuff. I make it more complicated than it needs to be. The more complex the harder to execute.  I’m talking about my health. Seriously, do you know how many health experts I have had on this show? How many podcasts I have listened to, audio books, read books……I know I need to lose about 20 lbs.  I use to be a weight loss counselor years ago before I switched careers. I have worked for health and wellness companies. Yet here I am. It’s going to take time to close the loop but I am committing to a path and not wavering from it.  It’s a proven path that works for me, one that I can do and I am going to do it. And keep it simple.

So what are you leaving unfinished in your life?  What do you need to do to close some loops and move on?  Please let me encourage you to do the exercise I outlined in this episode.  I will be praying for you and if there is something in particular that you would like me to be praying for, you can totally reach out.  We have a closed Facebook group for listeners of the show, and you can always post prayer requests in there or you can email me directly or send me a message on Instagram.  My email is Jenny@yourliferocks.com

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Hope you have a great week!  And until next week, keep building a life that rocks.

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Episode 159: Creating a Flexible Career

Episode 159: Creating a Flexible Career


It’s time to think outside of the box when it comes to your career. You can have a fulfilling career that provides financially for your family, allows you to use your gifts, and is flexible for your family. Yes, it’s true. Listen in as our guest, Kathryn Sollmann Author and career coach, shares tips to negotiate more flexibility in your current job or find a position that is the perfect fit for your life.

About Our Guest

Kathryn Sollmann is a career coach, speaker and author of the book, Ambition Redefined: Why the Corner Office Doesn’t Work for Every Woman & What to DoInstead (Nicholas Brealey Publishing, Oct 2018).

Kathryn Sollmann is a recognized leader in helping women navigate the many stages of work and life. Through her blog and coaching firm, 9 Lives for Women, she is one of few voices strongly encouraging women to always work — at every age and life stage — to achieve long-term financial security. Her emphasis on women’s financial independence has generated event-sponsorship funding from corporate wealth-management giants, including AXA Advisors, Fideli- ty, Raymond James, Cigna and Wells Fargo. With good humor, no-nonsense delivery and the ability to educate and motivate, Kathryn is a frequent speaker, and an inspirational voice for women in college to retirement years. A frequent media resource, her expertise has been called upon by The Today Show, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Money, CNBC & more.

Tips and action items Shared on the show

How to Find Flexible Work

1. Know what flexible work is today. Six different kinds if you want a paycheck from an employer and the 7th option is to start your own business.

2. Focus on smaller companies — huge household global companies are slower to change and less likely to offer flexible work

3. Network, network and network even more to find flexible opportunities that aren’t as broadly advertised and to get insider info on which companies truly have flexible work cultures.

Learn More about our guest

Kathryn Sollmann

Website: https://www.kathrynsollmann.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/9LivesForWomen

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathrynsollmann

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathrynsollmann

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Episode 154: Working through Stress in Relationships

Episode 154: Working through Stress in Relationships


Stress and relationships seem to go hand in hand, and it doesn’t always have the best outcomes. But what if it could? This is part two of a two-part series with Dr. Mariam Coaster and in this episode, she is sharing practical tips for all of us working moms on how we can show up as our best selves, and restore relationships in spite of the stress around them.


Mariam Coaster Ph.D., LMFT (InRelationship.us; mariamcoaster.com) is a wife to a wonderful husband, and mother to two beautiful children, a two-year-old boy, and a 3-month-old girl. Professionally, she has a doctorate in neuroscience and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She primarily works with couples and women at her private practice in Franklin, TN. She is passionate about helping people grow towards healing and restoration in their closest relationships. She is also the co-founder of InRelationship, and a marriage workshop called 7 Conversations to Enrich your Marriage. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family, cooking up a new-found recipe, and being actively involved in her church.


Working through stressors in relationships We navigate stress in relationships through ownership and re-connection. This results in greater emotional health, holiness and healing in relationships.

Own your part: taking ownership for your part in the stress by spending time in self-reflection and prayer

1) Choosing to step away from the distressing relationship to gather yourself.

2) During self-reflection, pray for humility, wisdom and connection with God and yourself.

3) Use the stress indicators (feelings, thoughts and body sensations) to slow down and access heart issues:

a. What is really bothering me about this relationship?

b. What am I choosing to rely on or hope in more than God? What heart issues or ruling desires can I let go of?

c. How can the Gospel reorient my perspective to accept Christ’s perfect, sufficient grace, and therefore extend mercy, grace and love in the relationship?


Initiate Re-connection

1) Pray for wisdom on how to approach the relationship – ask for an opportune time to share your heart.

2) Share how your stress indicators (feelings, thoughts, and body sensations) showed up for you in the relationship.

3) Share heart issues or desires that became inordinately important during the stress. Share about your own repentance and how God gave you perspective in the situation.

4) Ask for what you may need to restore connection with that person, and talk about how to work through such a stressor together in the future.


Mariam Coaster
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
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Episode 9: Making Work Life Balance Possible

Episode 9: Making Work Life Balance Possible



In This Episode We Find Ways To Make Work Life Balance Possible

So many people will tell you that work life balance is not possible.  I like to believe that anything is possible!  Here are the two steps that we talk about in this episode:

  1. Clarity and Structure

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  1. Mindset

Following where you get your personal validation can lead to a life of unbalance.  To examine this for yourself, we talk about the acronym I.D.O.L.S.

I-Idols. (well that was obvious!)  Things we go after that create the identity that we want to be perceived to be.  Sometimes it comes in a competitive way.  Going after the things that allow us to “keep up” with people around us for a perceived identity.  Truth is, we don’t achieve an identity, we receive an identity.  

D-Duties.  Find your identity in what you do.  Who you are should determine what you do, what you do should not determine who you are.

O-Others.  When you find your identity in people.  Whether it is your family, friends, political party, nationality, race, or any other group that you can possibly think of.  We all want to belong, and we are called to fellowship.  Don’t let it define who you are.

L-Longings.  Not everything we long for is what God built us for.  Be careful not to use God to get what you want by making God into the resource instead of the source.  Are you really praying for his guidance and waiting for it?

S-Sufferings.  Find your identity in what you came through.  These tough things that we have gone through explain us but they should not define us.  You have to ask, where is your authority?  Are you clinging to the cross, or with Jesus that was on the cross.


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