Episode 168: Being the Best Version of Yourself

Episode 168: Being the Best Version of Yourself

As we are getting ready for 2019 and closing out 2018, this episode is a great exercise to get yourself ready for all that is to come.  It’s a flashback…originally this was episode 50 and originally played 3 years ago.  As a working mom, we are all working on balancing 8 areas of life and in this episode, we are talking about how to show up as the best version of yourself in all of those areas.  We will be talking about your faith, being a wife, mom, your career, home, health, finances, and friendships.

Like a lot of our episodes, this one is more like a mini-workshop. You are going to want to grab your notebook and take some action as I guide you through the activities described in the show.

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Episode 167: Holiday Sanity: 5 Ways to Beat the Overwhelm of the Holiday

Episode 167: Holiday Sanity: 5 Ways to Beat the Overwhelm of the Holiday

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On today’s show we are wrapping up our Holiday Sanity series.  I hope you have enjoyed this series, I have loved hearing from you and how you have applied what we talked about with Kimberly Walton from Cherished wives about in-laws, how you have planned and set intentions for your Christmas season, your career planning for closing out the year strong and setting yourself up for a great 2019, and of course how you are giving back and praying for others in your community.

Today was we are closing off this series, we are getting real.  Of course, I try to always bring content that is real to life as a working mom, but today we are talking about something that often gets overlooked this time of year.  A lot of people are talking about Advent Bible studies, fun crafts to do with the kids, their favorite Christmas movie, and the parties and fun activities that fill our schedule.  But what about the moms that are just trying to keep up with it all? What about when you are really wanting to be all holly jolly, but feeling a little empty, rushed, and feel like you are missing the magic of the season?

If I am honest, every year starts exactly the same.  I have expectations for the season and I find myself in the reality that doesn’t meet them.  Luckily, the last few years, I have been able to acknowledge it and carefully draw boundaries and time for self reflection and self care.  But that tension between expectation and reality….that is stress. Stress cuts us off from Joy.

So, how do you find joy for the season with just one week to go when you feel like you are missing the season or even worse, that you are doing it wrong?

This episode, we are going to talk about it and better yet, I am going to give you my best tools to help you out.

This episode is more of the kind of content I would have available just for Members of Life Balance, but I wanted to share it with all of you because I think it might help you this holiday season.

Before we dive in, can I say that if you are often finding yourself with the best of intentions and not getting where you want to go with finding balance and peace in your life, it might be time to join the movement of working moms that are redefining balance for themselves and join the Life Balance Membership inside the Your Life Rocks app.

Inside the membership, you’ll find courses that you can take at your own pace to help you define what balance means to you and focus and align your daily life with it, plus you’ll get digital planning tools, and access to resources to help you grow in all 8 areas of life.

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Ok, let’s dive into these strategies to help you this holiday season.

  1. First you need to do a brain dump of all the things that are stressing you out.  One of the reasons that we often struggle with peace is because we are always swimming in the sea of things to do.  If you can get it out of your head, it allows your brain to do something other than torment you with your unfinished tasks.  You can actually look at them objectively and make a plan.

    1. Grab a piece of paper and list it all out.  Everything. Don’t worry about formatting, or spelling.  Just get it out and onto paper.

    2. Then highlight the 3 most important

    3. Then highlight or circle the two most timely….meaning you need to do it NOW or it will mess something else up.

    4. Delete anything that you can let go of

    5. Your first 5….see if you can get it done today.  

    6. Everything else, schedule it in your calendar giving yourself twice as long as you think it will take

  2. Then do an emotional dump list.  If you need to, it might be helpful to do this before you do the detail of the brain “to-do” list.

    1. With a fresh sheet of paper, write non-stop about how you feel, what is stressing you out, how someone made you mad, what’s making you sad……get it all out.  Don’t worry about your writing, spelling, or anything….just dump it all out. Cry if you need to. When I am done with this exercise, I usually need to move around or clean something.  So go for a walk or do what you need to do. If you don’t need to do that and want to move on, do that.

  3. Write out a new narrative.  How do you want to be from now, until Christmas?  Of course, this strategy works outside of Christmas too.  Anytime you find yourself being overwhelmed. Visualizing how you want to be.  How you want your environment to be. How you want to react to stress will help you overwrite the patterns that are already happening.  It give your brain a different model to follow.

    1. Once you know how you want to be and how you want it to go, describe what your function is in the scenario.  What are you saying? Thinking? Doing? Then set yourself up proactively to do those things.

  4. If you have taken the Weekly Success Planning course, then you know this.  Proactive, intentional planning is all about removing the obstacles and barriers to your success.  And in this case, it’s “success” of your holiday season. I highly recommend that you take the free course to get all the steps and do this and use the WSP planning tool inside the app to prepare for your time before Christmas.  Repurpose the tool. And….it’s totally free inside the free app….really there is no excuse.

Last  tip:

5.  Give yourself grace.  I know it’s so easy to say and not always easy to do.  We are all way to hard on ourselves….myself included. But God has extended you grace for all of your sins.  You are forgiven of it all and it’s not tied to your performance….and your holiday should not be either. Soak in the lights, soak in the sounds, the smells, and every little thing.  The beauty of life is found in the imperfection. Think about what really matters….what you are doing for others or how you are treating them while you are doing all the things? How it looks or how it feels?  When we lay down the masks and the pretending, we allow God to minister to our hurts, refresh our spirit, give us rest, and wash us over with peace.

Next week is Christmas, I am praying for you and your family for a safe, and memorable remainder of the season.  Even though Christmas is on a Tuesday, there will be a new episode for you to listen when you get around to it. So until then, keep building a life, and holiday that rocks.

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Episode 164: The Working Mom’s Guide to the Holiday Season

Episode 164: The Working Mom’s Guide to the Holiday Season

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We are currently in a Holiday sanity series on the podcast. Each week we will be helping you navigate all the stuff that is so real this holiday season. Because it is a stressful time of year and we all know that it shouldn’t be, but we don’t really know how to clear all the junk out of the way that makes it seem so crazy and get down to the things that matter most.

This week is all about giving you a strong foundation in which to navigate the holiday season. I am going to be walking you through the Holiday Sanity workshop and planning strategy that you can find inside the Your Life Rocks app, completely for free. You can go to your app store search Your Life Rocks and find the app. Click here to learn more: https://yourliferocks.lpages.co/ylr-app-3-0/

If you already have the app, it would mean the world to me if you would leave us a review.  In the world of apps, and even podcasts, we are pretty small but I have a big desire to help more working moms and leaving a review helps others find the show, and the app.

You will find the workshop under courses inside the app and in there you will find an instructional video, planning worksheets if you want to use them, otherwise, I will just guide you through how to do the planning in your notebook.  You will also find bonus content like recommended Spotify playlists for worshiping during this season and so much more.

It’s totally free, there is no reason not to get it.  Plus, you will have access to Weekly Success Planning workshop and planning tool inside the app too.

And for our members of Life Balance Membership (by the way, it’s an upgrade inside the app that unlocks so much more.  More workshops, a bible study, more tools, and more coaching) I have some special surprises for you! Check your email box for information on the new information hub that has bonus content from the podcasts, tools to help you in all areas of your life and access to the Life Balance courses on your computer.  It’s brand new and I am super excited to offer it to you.


If you have been thinking about joining Life Balance Membership, now is a perfect time.  By joining now, before January 1st, 2019, you are locking in your rate of $9.99 a month. Starting in January the prices will be increasing but if you are already a member, your rate will not increase.  You will enjoy the lower rate for as long as you are a member. Plus, we have some more exciting things coming in January that you will not want to miss.

OK, let’s get into holiday planning.  This process is really about setting the intention for what you want this holiday season.  It’s making a stand for what matters to you and simplifying the season to just those things.  Because it’s just those things that matter most.

I’m going to walk you through everything that you will find inside the workshop.  Listen to the podcast episodes for the details on each step and you will also find them inside the workshop.

Here are the steps to the process:

  1. Set the intention

  2. Make your master list

  3. Make your detailed list

  4. Calendar all the tasks and activities

  5. Edit to your theme

Plus, I give you 5 tips to make living out your intention that much easier.

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Episode 163: Holiday Sanity – Forging A Path with Your In-Laws with Kimberly Walton

Episode 163: Holiday Sanity – Forging A Path with Your In-Laws with Kimberly Walton

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Holidays mean getting together with family and sometimes that is a good thing and sometimes… well not so much. Listen in and learn from marriage and relationship expert Kimberly Walton from Cherished Wives as she shares 7 ways you can forge a healthy relationship with your in-laws. This is great information even if you already have a great relationship with them or if you are struggling. Kimberly has provided some BONUS CONTENT: 7 Warnings Regarding Difficult In-Laws for our Life Balance Members.

About Our Guest

Kimberly Walton is a marriage mentor, speaker, writer, and women’s retreat leader who specializes in working with Christian women to create and nurture wildly successful marriages. 

She is the founder of Cherished Wives International, a coaching practice dedicated to strengthening marriages and increasing intimacy and connection through her unique INLOVE approach. The INLOVE program addresses the 6 principles that are part of successful marriage by focusing on the whole person and taking a wholehearted approach. 

Kimberly comes from a place of personal experience and draws on her formal and informal education to mentor on the “how-to’s” for developing greater intimacy, increasing passion, embracing vulnerability, and strengthening relationships. 

Kimberly believes in a solution focused approach to strong marriages and blends in humor, tenderness, scripture and even a touch of call-you-on-your-stuff when working with her clients whether it be in a one to one setting or a large group. 

Kimberly is married to the love of her life and lives in California.


Action Items and Tips from the show

7 Ways to Forge New Ground With Your In-Laws

1) Understand: In-laws are not being difficult, they’re just being themselves and understanding the differences we all have. In-laws are not just the parents of your spouse, this includes their siblings, aunts, and uncles etc. Understand their position and history with your spouse and with you being the newbie.

2) Be Compassionate: You need to empathize that how they see your spouse is different from how you see your spouse. You need to remember what its like to be in their shoes.

3) Communicate: Having assumptions can create a myriad of misunderstandings with your in-laws (or other people for that matter). It also shows a lack of being considerate to the thoughts and feelings towards others. Taking the step to reach out and communicate with your in-laws will not only make them appreciate your gesture, but could also start building a good relationship with them.

4) Anticipate: Be observant with what is going on. Anticipate challenges that you have experienced in previous holidays. Was there a relative who drank too much last Thanksgiving? Then, there’s a big chance it could happen again. Having an exit strategy for challenges like these can help you prevent or minimize those holiday mishaps.

5) Always Defend: At all times, your loyalty has to be with your spouse. Games will be played and words thrown around or some sort of sparring going on, your obligation is to defend your spouse from the in-laws. The person you should be loyal to is your mate at all times.

6) Take Nothing Personal: This is the approach where you should learn to be un-offendable and just allow other people to be who they are. Don’t allow people to get you riled up, sucking you in to the drama. Step back to stop them from continuing to bully you, because once they see that it affects you, they will keep going ‘till you reach your limit, thus the drama. Listen in, and learn how you can identify toxic in-laws.

7) Have Boundaries: Have boundaries and guidelines on how to navigate certain situations. Remember that you have authority over your immediate family then staying firm to the boundaries you have set. Be careful though of too much boundaries which could have an opposite effect. Ask yourself, are your boundaries clear? Are they effective? Have you become the difficult in-law?

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Episode 109: {Holiday Sanity} Setting an Intentional Christmas

Episode 109: {Holiday Sanity} Setting an Intentional Christmas

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The holidays are here!  It is my favorite time of year but it can also be a time of year full of stress, chaos, and guilt.  It doesn’t have to be that way!  That’s why I created the Holiday Sanity Course.  It’s three training modules plus extra bonuses to help you set the intention and create a plan to have the best Christmas you have ever had.  

This episode is from the first module in the course.  To learn more, and to purchase your course, Click Here.

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