Episode 172: Intention Without Expectations

Episode 172: Intention Without Expectations


We have been talking about goals for the last few weeks because, well, it’s the new year and we are setting new goals, intentions, selecting words for the year.  I want to help support you for the most amazing 2019 and I want you to be equipped to help you reach those goals. I hope that even in one small way, I can help you get to where you want to go and more importantly, where God is calling you to.  This episode will round out this series and it is a shorter one. But rather than it just being shorter, I want it to be a bit of a choose your own adventure. At the end of the episode, I will be pointing you to another episode that will meet your right where you are at… and you get to choose.

But sometimes we can set the very best of intentions, plan it all out but when we come to actually doing what needs to happen, we fizzle out.  Or maybe instead of fizzling out or losing motivation, you keep getting it in the face with obstacles that you never saw coming. And sometimes those obstacles can just be exhaustion.

I know for me, when I am goal setting and planning, I am not always realistic.  I am a dreamer, an optimist, a believer. While I love that God made me that way, sometimes I can plan for the best and when reality does not deliver as planned….I can feel like a failure, or get frustrated, or sad.

I can be hard and the reason it is hard is because I get so tied to the outcome.  I set goals with expectation. There is nothing wrong with it, in fact, I still stand to set goals with a clear vision of the outcome of what you want.  It sets the direction in which to go. But we also have to be open to the journey. Because in the journey of getting to where we want to go, God will teach us things, we will go deeper to learn more about ourselves, and what we really want in our lives becomes clearer.

Sometimes I thought I wanted things but in the process of trying to get them, God showed me I could let it go.  It wasn’t really what I wanted after all.

Sometimes we need to hold onto the vision and just do what is right in front of us and not worry so much about the details.  God will take care of the details in ways that we sometimes never expect or dream up on our own.

Sometimes we need to give ourselves grace and set realistic expectations and goals.  I really dislike that. When I am in seasons of my life that I need to calm down a bit with all the things, I feel like I am lowering the bar.  But really, if we change our perspective, we are not lowering our standards or settling for less, we are choosing to rest in him and trust in him to help us grow on a deeper level.

When you are in these seasons, we do need to be careful that we are not giving into the flesh and choosing to be lazy.  There is a difference in taking a season to rest and seek God in a deeper way and choosing to not do the things that we know will bring good fruit.  There are just seasons where we are taking new ground and our goals and intentions reflect that and seasons where we are called to stay where we are and see what is there for us.  There is wisdom in knowing the difference and can be frustrating when we want to do one thing but God has other plans. But trust me, following his will is the better way to go.

So if you find yourself planning your week to reach your goals and just not able to follow through on what you planned because you are tired, or not able to find your grove….maybe you need to rest.  Maybe you just need better sleep and some vitamins. Do you know how you know the difference? You get into the word, you pray, you seek confirmation with the word, you pray more and God will reveal what you seek. Sometimes his answer is easier to find than others, but if you lean in, you will find it.

So as you are setting your goals, casting visions, and dreaming big… hold them loosely in your hands.  Set the intention but let go of the expectation. Ask God to direct your steps and while you have cast the vision, don’t worry about seeing anything beyond what the lamp guiding your path allows you to see.  Trust in the journey to get there and give yourself grace.

OK, I told you this message would be short.  No action steps like we usually have but I wanted to direct you back to a few other episodes depending on where you are.

If you are finding that you are in a season of expanding, meaning your energy is good and you feel like you are in stride with God and ready for growth and possibilities, I invite you to go back and listen to episode 74:  Mindset of Balance for Ambitious Women https://www.yourliferocks.com/podcasts/74?rq=God

If you feel like you are in a season of rest (like it or not) then go back and listen to: Episode 63:  Cut the Overwhelm through obedience https://www.yourliferocks.com/podcasts/63?rq=grace


If you are just not sure about setting goals right now and are looking for a direction, Check out episode 47:  Your ultimate job description https://www.yourliferocks.com/podcasts/47?rq=God

And if you are new to Your Life Rocks and still not sure about balance being something that is possible but you like the idea of it, check out episode 116 3 steps for creating balance in your life https://www.yourliferocks.com/search?q=116

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Episode 171: Setting Up Your Calendar

Episode 171: Setting Up Your Calendar


We are in the middle of our series all about setting your new year up so you can reach your goals.  If you missed the previous episodes about goal setting and doing weekly prep to help you reach your goals….I hope you go back and have a listen.

This week we are talking all about setting your calendar up for success.  I’ll be guiding you through this exercise so grab your calendar, a pencil and get ready to make 2019 your year!

Review from the show:

Annually:  Go through the list of each area covered in the episode

Monthly:  Milestones, SOPs

Weekly:  Planning we talked about this last week

Daily:  What habits are you building, how are you focusing your time?

Links mentioned in the show:

Jar and Rocks video

Home Reset episode

As a reminder, Life Balance Members have bonus content for this episode. Be sure to check out the resources section of the membership to download it: Your Life Rocks – Membership Vault

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Episode 170: Weekly Prep to Reach Your Goals

Episode 170: Weekly Prep to Reach Your Goals


Weekly Prep for the new year

Three keys to reaching your New Year goals

  1. Clarity of what you actually want

  2. Clarity of what you need to do to get there-make your plan

  3. Do the plan

    1. Pre-plan a week at a time-  Actions you need to take and the calendar.  If it’s not on your calendar…..when are you going to do it?

    2. Identify and work around the obstacles

    3. Watch your mindset

      1. Justifications

      2. Excuses-   Remember: You are the one that set the goal.

      3. If you want something different you have to do something different

      4. If you want something different you need to react in a different way

        1. Reading a book called I declare war by Levi Lusko  It’s all about how to win the battle with yourself.  The things that you are doing that are holding you back.  

If you don’t have clarity with your goals-get clarity.  They don’t have to be big goals. This time of year, everything seems to be about big goals.  Think big and dream….but let that be like 5 years out or longer. Then think about the next 90 days and what you can do to move you closer to the vision for your life.

If you have clear goals, but don’t know how to get to where you want to go…..spend some time developing a plan.  Use the guide inside the Weekly Success Planning course or if it’s something you need outside help with, get the outside help.  Maybe your goals are financial and you feel stuck and don’t know how to make and stick to a budget. Get software, take a course, or reach out to a professional to help you.  Same goes with your marriage, being a mom, your career, health, you name it. Can’t get organized in your house? Same thing applies there.

Need help in putting this all together?  Post in this group, reach out to me. I am more than happy to help.

Link to the book I mention in this episode:  I Declare war by Levi Lusko https://amzn.to/2VBHdgv

Learn more about Life Balance Academy:  https://yourliferocks.lpages.co/life-balance-academy/

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Episode 169: 5 Strategies to Make Your Goal Stick

Episode 169: 5 Strategies to Make Your Goal Stick


We are called to be a people of vision and to keep our eyes focused at what is before us, and to present ourselves in the best version of ourselves.  Growing and transforming to be more like Jesus. Plus, setting goals and dreaming about what life will be like when you achieve them is fun! At least I think it is fun.  But you know what is not fun? Setting the same goals over and over and not getting there. Starting the year with the best of intentions and then fizzling out and not sticking with it.  

But what if I told you that it didn’t have to be that way?  

Today I am going to give you strategies to help your goals that you have set for yourself stick.

Before we get to that, I wanted to tell you about a new program that we have coming in January, starting January 20th to be exact.  If you have listened to the podcast for some time then you have likely heard me reference the Life Balance system. It’s a course that is inside the Your Life Rocks app that helps guide you to being the best version of yourself in all 8 areas of life.  

Well, in my new program Life Balance Academy we are taking it to the next level for a 10-week live group coaching program.  You will learn the system and how to personalize it to your life through live coaching with me. In addition, you will learn from a new expert each week on how you can be the best version of you, break through bad habits holding you back, and equip you with tools for your faith, marriage, parenting, home, finances, health, career, and friendships.  Because it’s a live coaching group, you can get all your questions answered, get the support that can help you stay on course and see real change in your life. Because this is the first time we are offering a live course like this, you can get special pricing by signing up for this session. Learn more by going to YourLifeRocks.com or email Jenny@yourliferocks.com for more info.

Strategies to make your goals stick

  1. Go big with your vision.  

Don’t just think about this year, your goals should align with your life vision….or at least a 5-year vision.  When you sent the intention for what you want your life to represent, what you value, what you want to be known for, what is important not just to you but the whole family…..it gives you clarity to what you need to be putting your time and attention to.  Being a part of a bigger vision helps your goals have more weight and importance than just an arbitrary goal picked from your emotions at the moment.

2.  Make it an actual vision.  Can you see it in your head?  Really imagine what life will look like when you reach your goal or are living in your intention.  What are you doing? Where are you going? Picture it like a movie in your head.

3.  Go small with the specifics.  When you have set your intentions for the year that are in alignment with your bigger vision for your life (or the next 5 years), set smaller specific goals that will get you there.  Start with 90-day goals, set monthly milestones, weekly targets, and daily actions that will get you there. You can set more than one goal at a time to help you move toward your vision.  In fact, I recommend that you set small goals in each area of your life. Please hear me when I say this. If you hear nothing else. There is a difference between a goal and a lifestyle change.  I don’t recommend doing more than one lifestyle change at one time. We talked about this in our group coaching inside the Your Life Rocks Life Balance app a few months ago. You can go back and watch the replay of that training.

4.  Create an action board… not a vision board.  An action board focuses on the actions that you need to do in order to reach where you want to go. Create it digitally and then you can print it out or store it as your wallpaper on your phone or computer.

5.  Stick to a system that will help you live it out.

The Life Balance Academy will take you in-depth with each of these steps of casting a bigger vision and then breaking it down.  But it goes further. We will be heavily focused on the actions to take to build the habits that support your goals and help you achieve them while growing in all areas of your life.

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