I think that by now we all know that the comparison game is one that has no winners. And yet, we all fall into it from time to time. So how do we break free from this and start living a life free from it’s grips? Well, to answer that, Heather Creekmore is joining us with 4 action steps to help you find freedom! Heather is an author and speaker that helps women find a way to release the grip comparison has on them. Her first book Compared to Who? encourages women to uncover the spiritual root of body image issues and find freedom. Her new release, The Burden of Better, offers women a journey into the depths of God’s grace to find a way off the treadmill of constant comparison.
About Our Guests
HEATHER CREEKMORE writes and speaks hope to thousands of women each week inspiring them to stop comparing and start living. Her first book Compared to Who? encourages women to uncover the spiritual root of body image issues and find freedom. Her new release, The Burden of Better, offers women a journey into the depths of God’s grace to find a way off the treadmill of constant comparison. Heather has been featured on Fox News, Huff Post, Morning Dose, Church Leaders, For Every Mom, along with dozens of other shows and podcasts. But she’s best recognized from her appearance as a contestant on the Netflix hit show, Nailed It. Heather and her fighter-pilot-turned pastor husband, Eric have four children and live in Austin, Texas.
Connect with Heather at Comparedtowho.me.
Tips From The Show
Tip one: Don’t just talk about comparison being a “thief” of joy – see how it steals from you.
— Data about how comparison will keep people from accomplishing goals
–Data about how comparison “stains” our brains and can, quite literally, make us feel rejection than never happened.
–Anecdotes about how comparison harms our relationships including marriages and friendships
Tip two: See comparison the way the Bible sees comparison.
–We use the term comparison, but the Bible uses different words – envy, jealousy, covetousness. It’s not fun to talk about these sins – but if we view comparison as this serious – not only is there a cure for it – there’s hope to be free from it! God doesn’t want us to compare—not just because of how unique and special he made us – he doesn’t want us to compare because it’s a sin.
–When we treat comparison as a “pet” to be tamed instead of a “pest” to be eliminated –we stay stuck in it.
–Even our striving for the “IDEAL US” is a type of idolatry that can keep us ensnared in sin. God has certain expectations for us, yes. But, we add to those expectations with our own “demands” of who we should be. These ideals keep us constantly striving and never resting.
Tip three: Practice gratitude.
–When we see our lives through the lens of grace and gratitude – we can feel more content and are better able to stop comparing.
–A daily gratitude habit has tremendous benefits – Paralyzed accident victims that did a daily gratitude journal reported more joy than those who have won the lottery!
–Make saying “thank you God” a constant habit—thank him for the close parking space, thank him for the sunshine – thank him for all things, big and small, all day long and watch how your demeanor changes.
Tip Four: Watch What You Watch
–Know your “contentment” and “comparison” triggers. If watching HGTV makes you hate your home, cut it out. If those before and after stories or fitness models on Instagram make you feel like your body isn’t enough – stop following them. Psalms 119:37 says, “Turn my eyes from worthless things.”
–Netflix to Novels – all of these things can stir up a desire for a fantasy life and lead us to that idolatry of idealism. We have to stay plugged into truth.
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