Episode 224: 3 Principles To Creating Balance In Your Life with Jenny Stemmerman

Episode 224: 3 Principles To Creating Balance In Your Life with Jenny Stemmerman

This episode is very foundational on how you can actually create more balance in your life as a working mom.  We are talking about the 3 principles to create balance in your life: Faith, community, and systems. We are also talking about how to figure out what balance looks like for you in the season of life that you are in.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

How to define what balance looks like for you and the session of life you are in:

The best way to define what balance looks like for you, is to start to describe what it feels like when things are out of balance.  Then think if things were the opposite.  Now you have your definition of life balance and can start to apply the three princples to them.

The 3 principles of balance:

  1. Faith first- Above everything.  Just like Matthew 6:33 says, seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be given to you.  We need to move away from keeping faith in a box and as just part of our life.  If you want balance, it needs to be the filter in which the rest of your life works from.
  2. Community-Serve others and allow them to serve you.  It might be a prayer, or an act of kindess or just a listening ear.  When you open yourself up to others, your problems seem smaller and your burdens are lessend. 
  3. Systems- Often we are overwhelmed and exhausted because we lack systems in our life and we have decision fatigue.  The more you can opperate in auto-pilot with healthy habits that contribute to your goals, the more you will have energy to do the things that matter.  This is where Life Balance Membership really shines.  We teach you the systems to keep things moving forward in each area of your life.

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Episode 222: 3 Ways To Help You Achieve Your Goals

Episode 222: 3 Ways To Help You Achieve Your Goals

Welcome to the new year!  Are you someone that sets goals for the new year?  Maybe go through the process of selecting a word? Whether you are someone that sets intentions or specific goals in your career, health, finances, or any other area of life, the three tips shared in this episode will help you crush them!  

Action Items and Tips From the Show

  1. Each morning decide how you are going to live out your word for the year that day.  Make a list of the three things that you will do and add them to your calendar.
  2. Lifestyle change vs goals Recognize that it is a difference and they need different approaches.
  3. Stay close to God with your goals.

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Episode 221:  A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Episode 221: A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Last week we wrapped up our series that lead us to Christmas called walking with Jesus.  I loved hearing from other working moms about their faith and all that Jesus as done in their lives.  

Next week we are starting a new series diving deep into some areas of life that you might have the most pressing goals to achieve for the new year.  I didn’t say new year resolution, but it might be that for you, or just some intentions for the new year, goals for your life or really whatever you want to call it, it doesn’t matter.  But if you are looking for improvement in your health, finances, home or other area of your life, you want to make sure you hit subscribe if you haven’t already so you don’t miss any of the great experts we have lined up.

So, with last week ending a series and next week starting a series, we are in a week of transition.  And really that is what this week has been all about….meaning the week between Christmas and New years.  It is my favorite week of the year because it is quiet, there isn’t that much going on and I can just breath, think, and be.

Every year I use this week to reflect on areas of my life, give gratitude, dream a little and just talk to God about bigger things than I normally get to on a daily bais.  I go through a process that allows me better insight to setting goals and getting ready to accomplish them.  

It is this exact system that I have been teaching to our Life Balance members this week.  If you are not a life Balance member, you can still join us! The great thing is that we are walking through a pre-recorded course that you can start really at anytime.  It’s a 7-day new program that has been added to the membership and it will help you get clear on your goals in a whole new way.  

In this episode, I wanted to share with you one of the priciples that we teach in this progam.  It’s a different way of setting goals than most people do.

Often when we set goals, they are out of pain of some kind.  For example, maybe you want to lose weight because you are not comfortalbe in your clothes, someone has said something to you or you experienced something that was hurtful.  Maybe you had a doctor appointment and the results were scary and it has caused you to look differently at your health. Maybe you are setting goals around your finances because you are tired of working hard and not getting ahead.  Your tired and want to afford a vacation or you are feeling the pinch of debt.

When we feel this pain or discomfort, it moves us to make a change.  When we decide to make a change, we start looking for the solution or a recipe to follow.  This is where things get complicated. Do you know how many diet plans are out there that you could follow?  I don’t either because there are new ones popping up all the time. I always say the best health program out there is the one that you will stick to.  And that is just for health, the same can be said for any area of life that you want to improve.  

Now, there is nothing wrong with seeking outside information, learning, or finding someone that can help you.  But often times we miss a huge step in the process. We forget that if we really want to change, it takes power…willpower.  And guess what? We are not nearly as powerful as our maker is. How much easier would it be to reach your goals if the Spirit of God was working in your favor to help you get there?

Seeking God in our goal setting process is critical for success in achieving it, but more than that, when we are on board with God’s will for any situation, the peace and grace is unmeasurable.

Bringing our desires to God is the first step.  Letting his grace extend past what we are capable of will help us get to where we want to go.  The other awesome things about journeying toward where you want to go with God, is that his grace overflows to other areas of your life.

That is the second point to what we are doing in Life Balance, we are looking at all areas of life, not just the one that is causing pain.  Do you know why it is causing pain? Becuase it has been neglected. When we set a goal based on our pain points alone, we tend to shift the focus to the one area of life and that can set us off balance and strart to neglect other areas of our life….you guessed it…they will be come future pain points.  It starts to create a cycle. 

Think about it as if you were spinning plates on poles like they do in the circus.  When you go the method of focusing on the one area that needed the most, you are not paying attention to the other plates spinning until they are just about ready to crash.  Then you have to rush to rescue the other areas before they come crashing to the ground.

Instead, if you have a system to keep the plates all going, and you are able to calmly check in on each one, give it a little of what it needs to keep going, it becomes much more managable.  And when life happens and the unexpected happens, if you followed the first step, you have the Holy Spirit by your side to help you.

That is exactly what we are doing inside Life Balance Membership.  Teaching you the system to do just that. That is what has always been in the membership.  The new course that we are going through right now, is really helping you first look to God for a vision for the year and then assessing each area of your life to get a direction toward what is needed to keep that area healthy.  Once we go through each area, then it’s all about taking that direction you have discoved and bringing it back to God. This prepares you to be able to live it out with the Life Balance System.

 

 

This is the kind of exercise that we are doing for each area of life.  It’s real. It’s not sexy. But it give you a clear vision of where you are and what you need to be focused on.  

Now we we are setting goals in Life Balance, it’s not to solve all the things.  It is about making progress in 90-days. That is the goal.  

I have said this before, but in case you have not heard me say it or you just need a reminder:

You can set goals in all areas of your life….and you should.  Goals are different than a life change. Want to lose 50 lbs? That is a life change not a goal.  Looking for a new career? That’s a life change. Having a baby? That is a life change. While you can have multiple goals, I don’t recommend multiple life changes.  You will go into survive mode and it’s not only difficult, it will painful.

Your life change might be to lose 50lbs but your 90-day health goal might be to focus on your water everyday, sticking to your eating plan, or adding in physical activity.  

I hope these tips help you as you start to look toward the new year.  Let me recap what we talked about.

  1.  Look to God and his strength before you start after your goals in your own.
  2. Look to set goals in all areas of your life, not just one.
  3. A life change is different than a goal.  Don’t do more than one life change at a time.

Like I said at the begininning of this episdoe, it’s not too late to join us inside of Life Balance Membership and go through this 7-day process for yourself.  You can upgrade right inside the app or by going to Life Balance Membership.com

 

Next week we are back and starting our new series!  If you are new to the show, our new series is reflective of what we are all about.  I’ll be brining you expert guests in each of the 8 areas of life to help inspire you to be the best version of yourself in each area.  Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it!

 

Until next week, keep building a life that rocks

 

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Episode 215:  Planning Your Holiday Sanity

Episode 215: Planning Your Holiday Sanity

Christmas time is here!  Well, just about.  This is a wonderful time of year, but as a working mom, it can also get pretty chaotic…but it doesn’t have to be that way!  In this episode, I am walking you through the free course Holiday Sanity.  You can get it inside the Your Life Rocks app or on your computer by going to Holidaysanity.com.  We are talking about how to plan your Christmas season to keep things realistic, but still totally awesome!  Bring on the Christmas lights and all the holly jolly, Christmas time is here!

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Episode 211:  How To Fill Your Bucket When Your Burnt Out

Episode 211: How To Fill Your Bucket When Your Burnt Out

If you are new to the show, I’m Jenny a fellow working mom and founder of Your Life Rocks an online resource for working Christian moms.  I hope you download the app, subscribe to this podcast because Your Life Rocks is all in for you. Both on the podcast and in the resources in the app you will find tip and inspiration to live your best life as a working mom all the while keeping your faith at the center of it all.

Today’s podcast is a bit personal for me, but I wanted to share this with all of you because what I am going through right now, I know so many of you might be as well or at least will be dealing with because I hear from you all the time when you do feel this way.  I see it in other facebook groups and hear it from my friends as well. And this isn’t my first time dealing with it. I’m talking about burnout, exhaustion, and working with an empty bucket and feeling out of balance.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

When we feel out of balance, crazy, overwhelming it can be two things.

  1.  An area of your life has been neglected and you need to shift your attention to create more balance.  
  2. You have been neglected.  Meaning that your bucket is empty.

I don’t usually talk a lot about taking care of ourselves because I think it is a slippery slope.  It can very quickly become self consuming, and even self worshiping if we are not careful. Right now the world is very much about looking out for you first, putting yourself first, ect.  

As Christians, we know that when we put anything ahead of God, it is idolitry.  This includes our fleshly needs.  

But with all of that said, I do think we need to talk about taking care of ourselves.  When we are giving our all at work, at home, in our communities, to our friends and extended families….we can be left empty if we don’t have anything that fills us back up.

So that’s what we are talking about today.  Balanced self care, how to fit it into your already full schedule and how to get yourself full so you can continue to serve in all the roles that God has called you to.  How to fill your bucket back up so you can continue to give.

Let me first say, this is something that I think we can all relate to.  The feeling of Losing ourselves, feeling empty, exhausted, is something that we have all experienced.  But I wanted especially to talk about this topic right now for two reasons.

  1.  We are going into a busy season with the end of the year activities both at work and at home.  This time of year we all are giving a lot of our selves. So let’s be proactive with our selves so we don’t get to Christmas and feel numb and tired.
  2. I always say that I am right in this working mom struggle and blessings right with you and right now, this is the message that I needed to give because it’s the message I need to hear.  The activites that we are going to walk through are things that I need to do for me.

If you listened last week or are in our Facebook community, you heard me share a little bit about what my family has been going through the last few weeks.  My youngest son, he is 10, has Cystic Fibrosis. He has been fighting a sickness since the first part of September and his lung function has been declining the last year and half with a serious drop after getting sick.  We tried treatments at home with the guidance of his medical team, and they failed. So, we were admitted into the hospital for a 10 day stay and then we did another 4 days of at IV treatments. After all that, he is still not where he needs to be with his health.  But at this point, he has been on antibotics for a very long time and it’s taking it’s toll on his digestive track. So we need to give it a rest for 4 weeks and then start the whole thing all over again.

This whole thing has been hard to deal with along side work, taking care of my other son, and everything else.  Luckily, I have a community of family and friends that are supporting us and praying for us. All that said, it has been emotionally and mentally exhausting and sleeping on the little bench bed in his hospital room wore me out physically as well.

I had other plans for topics for this week’s podcast but I have to tell you, I was too empty to record it.  For the first time in almost 4 years of this podcast, I was at a loss for words to speak.  

Literally, I knew I was at a breaking point when my husband was going to bring me home chips and guac from Chipotle and they were out of guac and I cried.  Yes, I cried because there was no guac. Really I cried because I was tired of the resistance. Everything feels heavier and everything that is a resistance seems bigger when we are exhausted.

If you have cried over something silly, know that it’s not silly.  You are having an emotional response to something bigger than whatever is right in front of you and it’s a sign that you need to fill your bucket.

One thing I noticed over the last couple of weeks is that no one else can fill my bucket for me.  At first I had the thought, “I am taking care of everyone elses needs, who is going to take care of mine?”

Truth is, I had friends and family asking what they could do and offering help.  But it wasn’t what I needed.  

If you find yourself here, empty, tired, depleated….here is what I found to be helpful to me.

  1.  Feel all the feelings and be honest with myself about them.  This was hard for me. I wanted to be brave, strong, resourceful and still do all  the things. To do that, I needed to move the feelings deep deep down so I could function.  But they were still there and trying really hard to come out. And they did. Crying over guacamole.  You can do all the other things we are going to talk about but if you don’t acconoledge your emotions and let them run  their course, they will push themselves to the surface.  I’ll also add that while I was feeling the feelings and allowing myself to experience them, I needed to feel these feelings with God.  When I tried to process them without God, it turned into a pitty party way to fast. But with God, I found comfort and permission to work through the emotions.
  2. Take care of your physical body.  Sleep, rest, go easy on yourself. Think about how you take care of a toddler.  I am not saying you are a toddler, but if you think about how you take care of a toddler, you keep them with a consistant bedtime, give them a nap when they need it, make sure they bath and get dressed, eat healthy, do something creative, and take them to a place where they can run and play and get their energy out.  This helps them sleep well. As adults, we are not that different than toddlers other than we don’t have an adult supervising us to make sure that all these things happen. When we find ourself depleated, we need to start taking care of ourselves with the most basic of these needs. It’s easy to eat what is convienet or eat out of stress.  Fight the urge. Make healthy choices and limit sugar, and take your vitamins.
  3. Test and try things that will fill your bucket.  When you find something, double down. It might be alone time, it might be time with special people, working out, reading, going on a walk, doing something creative, or something else entirely.  I am a total intavert. I thought I needed alone time, but when I scheduled a few hours of it and did it, it didn’t help. So, I tried something different. I went on a date night with my husband and reconnected with him.  I also deep cleaned my house….I know it sounds crazy but I think the combination of the physical activity with getting stuff done that felt productive really helped me fill my bucket.
  4.  Lastly, was the thing that I wanted to do the least but probably helped the most.  I listened to other people. I didn’t do anything for them and I didn’t talk about me.  I simply listened. Everyone is going through their own stuff and when we start to see that, it can change our prerspective and take us out of the pit we might find ourselves in.  This is one of the big reasons that when we talk about the 3 pillars of balance community is one of them. If you hav not heard me talk abou tthis before, the 3 pillars are 1. Putting God first in your life and everything goes through the filter of Jesus.  2. Building a community and 3. Setting up systems and habits that promote your definition of balance.

Community is huge.  Hearing my husband talk about his thoughts and emotions around our son being sick, what he was facing with work was huge.  So was talking with an employee that needed advice and mentorship with a situation and talking to my best friend about stuff that was going on in her family.  Again, it wasn’t me doing anything….I was too empty to do. It was just me listening to them to take my focus off of me.

Actually, I have one more thing.  (this is number 5) Going through this and slowly filling my bucket, it has me thinking of the things that I need to adjust going forward.  I almost said change, but that feels like too much work. But there are adjustments that I need to make to my SOPs and habits to keep my bucket full so I won’t end up so very empty again.  It’s hard to come back from empty. It takes time and grace. For our life balance members, I will be diving into monthly and Weekly SoPs for filling up our buckets on the exclusive member podcast.

I hope these 5 things help give you some direction if you find your bucket getting empty or like me, found the bottom of the bucket.  Tho it is not fun to experience, it has brought me to a deeper understanding of the grace offered by the spirit of God. His presence in this situration was felt even if it was not seen.  Whatever you are facing he is there with you. And I love hearing the stories of what God is doing in people’s lives. It’s powerful to spread the glory of God, to give hope, and to reflect on the things that matter most.  That’s why I am putting together a series of these stories of what Jesus has done or is doing in our lives. The series will air through the holidays so we can stay focused on the reason of the season. If you have a great testimony that you would like to share, visit Yourliferocks.com/walkingwithJesus or send me an email at Jenny@yourliferocks.com

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Episode 201: Creating Structure for a Balance Life

Episode 201: Creating Structure for a Balance Life

The promise of a new season can be so sweet but it can be even more rewarding if you enter it with intention.  In this episode, we are talking about how to create a structure for balance in your life and how to reset your systems for a successful season ahead.  Stay tuned to the end for three tips to help you get there!

Action Items and Tips From the Show

Transitioning to a new structure in your life isn’t easy.  Follow these steps to help you get there:

  1. Schedule a reset weekend to reset your environment (see link below to an episode all about this)
  2. Take inventory of your areas of life and where you are in each one.  Thinking of what is successful and what isn’t working.
  3. Review and reset your goals.  Need help creating these goals and setting a structure to achieve them?  That’s what Life Balance Membership is here for!  We would love to have you join us!

How to seek God in the transition to a new season and new structure:

  1. Make time to seek after him.  
  2. Give the transition, time, goals, and each area of your life over to him.
  3. Ask what he has for you in the next season.

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Ready to create balance in your life?  Life Balance membership contains the courses to help you build the systems of balance for working Christian moms.  Plus, you’ll have access to our Bible study, Setting Goals in God’s Will, planning tools to help you apply everything that you are learning, podcast bonus material, monthly group coaching, community support and more!  Start your free 7-day trial and get access to everything through the Your Life Rocks app or from your computer.

Join us the week of August 19th inside the Life Balance Membership as we go through the 7-day course, Clear the Chaos, all together!  In this course, you will get the tools to create a structure to your week to allow for balance to flourish, plus build the important supports needed for the journey to balanced living!  Join us by upgrading inside the app or going to LifeBalanceMembership.com

Plus, you’ll get the back to school guide to setting a strong foundation for your kids right when you join!

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Resources Mentioned in the Show:

If you havn’t seen this video on life rocks, here it is: https://youtu.be/zV3gMTOEWt8

Doing a reset weekend?  Check out this past episode

 

 

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