Episode: 299 Summer Of Joy Week 2, Finding Joy In Serving Your Family

Episode: 299 Summer Of Joy Week 2, Finding Joy In Serving Your Family

Welcome to our summer joy series!  The next 4 episodes are designed to help bring more joy into your life.  This is our second episode in the series and are talking about finding joy by serving your family.

We all serve our families….but are we doing it in a joyful way or are we building resentment and looking to see if our husbands are doing as much as we are or even just grumble when we do laundry.  

But when we don’t serve our families with joy….it just brings more non-joy feelings to our life.

Remember last week when we talked about Joy being a fruit of the spirit.  When we follow the instructions for life in the bible, it moves us closer to experiencing these fruits including joy.

Again, it’s not that we are not serving our family.  We are taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, prepping meals, shopping, taking care of doctor appointments, medications, school involvement and so much more.  The issue isn’t doing it…it’s the spirit in which we do that can be an issue.

I know for me, I want to serve my family with joy but our intentions and reality are not always the same. I have been praying about this for a bit of time and the one thing that God showed me was this.

There are three things that keep me from experiencing joy in serving my family.

  1. Forgetting that this is what God created me to do.  When I lose focus on the biblical principles at play, I get focused on the equality of the housework, and my own needs above the needs of my family.
  2. Reactive.  When I plan my schedule and to-do list tightly and I get interrupted to fill a need, I lose it.  There is no joy there.
  3. When I become a martyr and not take care of my own needs.

Can you relate to these?  Let’s talk about some solutions.  

  1. Get in the word of God.  If you are in the Life Balance Membership, take the Setting Goals in God’s will Bible study…pay special attention to the parenting, marriage, and home versus.  When we can make the bible personal to use and remember the instruction for our creator it makes all the difference.  Life gets noisy so we have to ensure that we are tapped into the vine often and not allow the world to disconnect us.
  2. Ok, I am not a fan of the whole take care of yourself before you talk care of anyone else movement.  And here is why….it’s a slippery slope.  But we do have to take care of ourselves.  This is what that looks like:   Remember, there is no reward for taking care of everyone else and not yourself.
  3. Reactive vs proactive.  I don’t like to be interrupted.  I find that the older I get, the more I don’t like it.  I don’t see this changing anytime soon.  But, when I can serve my family by being proactive about their needs it does two things…1. It focuses my heart and mind on them and what they might need from me. And 2. It allows me to show my love for them and allows them to experience that love.  Give them space (treat others how you would want to be treated) which means creating white space when they are around.v

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Episode 296: Be More Intentional In Your Parenting With Teresa Vining

Episode 296: Be More Intentional In Your Parenting With Teresa Vining

Do you ever feel like you are just flying by the seat of your pants and making it up as you go as a mom?  Yep, we all do.  We have goals and dreams of how we want to parent but then we meet our kids and real-life happens and it gets harder to stick to those ideals that we set.  In this episode, we are joined by parenting expert and coach Teresa Vining.  She is here to help us come back to those things that really matter and give us the tools to make them a reality to be the best mom we can be.

About Our Guest

Teresa is a Christian life and family coach, as well as a writer and speaker on topics relating to relationships, parenting, marriage, and faith. Teresa has been married to her college sweetheart for 28 years. She has extensive parenting experience as the mom of four and the previous foster mom of more than 50 children.

She and her husband served as foster parents for over 20 years and adopted two of their kids as older children through the foster care system. This has given her the opportunity to personally parent kids with all different backgrounds, ethnicities, personalities, strengths, and challenges, as well as kids in all kinds of schooling situations, including homeschool, public school, alternative school, and online school.

Teresa loves encouraging families and helping them grow spiritually, overcome challenges, build strong relationships, and achieve their goals. She offers relationship and parenting workshops, as well as provides one-on-one and group coaching to women, couples, and teens.

She has published two books and numerous articles in publications such as Focus on the FamilyMarriage Partnership and Today’s Christian Woman. She lives in the Kansas City area and coaches moms throughout the U.S. through video conferencing.

  • https://teresaviningcoaching.com
  • https://www.facebook.com/teresaviningcoaching
  • https://www.instagram.com/teresaviningcoaching

Tips From The Show

  • Intentional parenting is important because the days are long in parenting, but the years are short.
  • Intentional parenting helps us sync our parenting reality with our parenting ambitions and allows us to decide where we want to spend our time and energy as parents, rather than letting the mood of the day or outside forces dictate.
  • We will walk through the three essentials of intentional parenting: awareness, planning, and follow-through.
  • We will consider the reasons goalsetting usually fails and why so many are discouraged with even the thought of setting goals.
  • We will discuss how to identify and set parenting goals, create a plan to achieve them, and build a solid strategy to ensure success in a way that fits your unique personality and family dynamic.

Join Life Balance Membership

Ready to create balance in your life?  Life Balance membership contains the courses to help you build the systems of balance for working Christian moms.  Plus, you’ll have access to our Bible study, Setting Goals in God’s Will, planning tools to help you apply everything that you are learning, podcast bonus material, monthly group coaching, community support and more!  Start your free 7-day trial and get access to everything through the Your Life Rocks app or from your computer.

Have you subscribed to the show yet?  Don't miss a single upcoming episode because when you subscribe, you will automatically get it the show in your app.  If you don't have a podcast app, not to worry.  You can download the Your Life Rocks app and get the shows right in the palm of your hand.  Otherwise, click here to subscribe on iTunes or here for Android.

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Episode 290: Working Mom Guide To Planning An Awesome Summer

Episode 290: Working Mom Guide To Planning An Awesome Summer

Summer is just around the corner and I am totally here for it!  Do you ever think about just how fast time flies?  Before we know it, we will be welcoming in fall.  Don’t miss making this summer the most awesome summer for your family and for you!  In this episode, I am walking you through the Summer of Awesome Planning Guide to help you intentionally plan for this upcoming season as a working mom.

In this episode, I reference the full summer planning kit that is available inside Life Balance Membership.  

Tips From The Show

  • When planning an awesome summer, be thinking about what your intentions are for you and your family.
  • Include the family in making a summer bucket list of what to do
  • Edit the list based on the time you have available (after considering all camps, appointments, etc) and money you have budgeted
  • Put your plan on the calendar and make it an awesome summer!

Join Life Balance Membership

Ready to create balance in your life?  Life Balance membership contains the courses to help you build the systems of balance for working Christian moms.  Plus, you’ll have access to our Bible study, Setting Goals in God’s Will, planning tools to help you apply everything that you are learning, podcast bonus material, monthly group coaching, community support and more!  Start your free 7-day trial and get access to everything through the Your Life Rocks app or from your computer.

Have you subscribed to the show yet?  Don't miss a single upcoming episode because when you subscribe, you will automatically get it the show in your app.  If you don't have a podcast app, not to worry.  You can download the Your Life Rocks app and get the shows right in the palm of your hand.  Otherwise, click here to subscribe on iTunes or here for Android.

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Episode 284: Taking The Stress Out Of Getting Your Family To Eat Healthy with Megan Hadley

Episode 284: Taking The Stress Out Of Getting Your Family To Eat Healthy with Megan Hadley

Do you ever stress about what you are feeding your family?  As a mom, I think we have all been there wondering if they are getting the nutrition they need and if we are presenting healthy eating in the right way to our kids.  Fear no more!  Megan Hadley joins us in this episode of Redefining Balance for Working Moms podcast to give us practical tips to take away the stress and give us all a little more confidence in the kitchen.

About Our Guests

Megan Hadley, MS, RDN, and LDN is a nutrition therapist and owner of Simple Nutrition, a nutrition counseling clinic in Greensboro, NC. She believes that all bodies are good bodies and that from cake to kale, all foods are good foods.  After helping hundreds of clients recover from diet culture, Megan knows that when women begin to ‘fork the food rules’ and focus on more of what really matters to them, they thrive in all areas of their life.

When she’s not working, Megan enjoys spending time with her husband and two daughters. She loves cooking, traveling, long naps, good wine, and french fries. Megan finds her strength, both personally and professionally, rooted in her deep faith in Christ, as she knows she was created to live a life of abundance and to help other women believe and discover that, as well.

Website:  www.simplenutritioncounseling.com

Tips From The Show

    • An overview of the most stressful parts of feeding our families
    • How our own thoughts regarding food and our bodies can impact our approach to feeding our families
    • What is the concept of ‘Division of Responsibility’ and how can it help remove some of the stress (and mom guilt)? 
    • How to promote a healthy relationship with food and body in our children 

Make the next 90-days your best with the Life Balance Method

The Life Balance Method is a 12-week program designed to help working Christian moms create the systems they need to calm the chaos in their lives and move closer to their goals.  Join us!

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Episode 283: Strategies For Mom Success While Working From Home with Shari Medini and Karissa Tunis

Episode 283: Strategies For Mom Success While Working From Home with Shari Medini and Karissa Tunis

Have you ever tried to get something done at home and as soon as you do, your kids interrupt?  It can be stressful and bring about some serious mom guilt.  But we still have to get stuff done…especially if you are working from home.  If this is going to be your new normal, you are going to need some new strategies to make it work!

This is where are our experts come in.  Karissa Tunnis and Shari Medini of adorethemparenting.com wrote a book called Parenting While Working From Home and it is full of the practical things that you need to hear!

About Our Guests

Shari Medini and Karissa Tunis are the co-authors of Parenting while Working from Home: A Monthly Guide to Help Parents Balance Their Careers, Connect with Their Kids, and Establish Their Inner Strength. They are also the co-owners of the popular parenting website, AdoreThemParenting.com. With six kids between them and over a decade of work from home experience, they love sharing strategies that help fellow parents minimize the overwhelm while trying to juggle it all.

Website: https://adorethemparenting.com/

Tips From The Show

  • Make Your Moments Count
    • Instead of stealing small moments and feeling guilty about them, own it! Instead of hiding in a closet with a bar of chocolate scrolling through your phone, what could you intentionally be doing to restore your energy?
    • You could take a 20-minute shower, or you could take a restorative 20-minute bath
    • You could spend time on social media comparing yourself to others, or you could read a chapter of a book that you love
    • You can sit on the couch with your kids while they watch a movie, and you can pop an earbud in and listen to your own podcast while you all snuggle
  • Fulfill Your Kids’ Needs First
    • If you meet your kids’ needs first, then you will be better able to focus and get some productive work time without interruption.
    • Make sure that everyone has snacks and a drink, has gone to the bathroom and has had a chance to connect with you and share any stories that they want to tell you.
    • Spend some time creating an inviting play set up for your kids, but then you don’t have to stick around for the actual playing. Get them intrigued, and then you can step away to get some work done.
  • Communicate Professionally while Working from Home
    • Respond quickly. When people don’t hear back from you, they start to make up their own reasons that you might not be responding. You don’t have to give the full answer right away, but a quick message to let them know that you received their message and are on top of things can go a long way!
    • Don’t overshare. I understand the urge to explain the craziness of your everyday life, but it just doesn’t belong in a professional setting. I have answered plenty of emails while breastfeeding a baby or watching my kids play at the playground, but no one needed to know that.
    • Calmly handle interruptions. Pretend your kids are your little coworkers who pop into your office with questions. We have some tips for handling those situations!

Make the next 90-days your best with the Life Balance Method

The Life Balance Method is a 12-week program designed to help working Christian moms create the systems they need to calm the chaos in their lives and move closer to their goals.  Join us!

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Episode 279: Navigating Stress and Anxiety with Your Kids with Joy Acaso

Episode 279: Navigating Stress and Anxiety with Your Kids with Joy Acaso

How are your kids doing?  It’s been a rough year for them and as moms, we want the best for them including with their mental health.  This is why I have asked one of my favorite parenting experts on the show, Joy Acaso who is also an Anxiety Support Coach and Psychotherapist.  

Get ready for some great information to help identify when your kids are under stress and anxiety and how to best support and help them.

About Our Guest

Joy is a wife and mom of 2, an 13 yr old daughter and 7 yr old son. Personally, parenting has
been a season of “unlearning and learning.” Her work as an Anxiety Support Coach and
Psychotherapist is a testament that it’s never too early or never too late to choose the best
course of action.

She values the integrity and uniqueness of every family and individual she meets. Joy tries her
best to put awe and curiosity at the forefront because she knows that “one-size-fits-all” can
never bring healing. She has made it her mission to spread awareness in utilizing therapy and
coaching as a means of helping families bond closer and make their mental health their priority.

Learn More About Joy:

www.joyacaso.com

IG: @joyacaso
FB: @joyacasocoaching

Tips From The Show

Success tips for overcoming overwhelm and stress:

1. How can we support our kids as moms?: Every family has their own story and
must therefore take the time to identify their kind of stress or their kind of crisis.

2. When should we be worried about the effects of isolation for our kids or other
effects of the events around us?: Everyone is affected now more than ever. We
are facing the worst mental health crisis in America today. Globally, we’ve also
seen research studies from the UK and Asia. Emphasize on physical distancing, not social isolation.

3. What are the signs that our kids are more greatly affected? We as parents must
educate ourselves about what stress looks like, and what it feels like in our own
lives so that we can talk to our children about it. Many times, children don’t even
know that they’re stressed out or affected. Some common symptoms:
forgetfulness decreased interest in friends or friendships, decreased interest in
creative outlets, more frequent crying or anxiety.

4. What kind of intervention is best and when to seek it? Early intervention is always
best. The most effective and most basic kind of intervention at home is listening,
engaging and ongoing observation.

5. I keep hearing talk about previous generations and things in history that kids
grew up in that were hard. How can we learn from those times to provide a good
outcome or should we not even worry about it knowing that our kids will gain
resilience? Learning from the past is always a good thing. Part of building
resilience is the very act of making sense of distress as a family. If we are going
to use the past as a history lesson with our children, approach and timing are key.
For example, when our children are in the middle of dealing with a sensitive topic
(sensitive to them), that would not be the appropriate to bring up lessons of
sorts.

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