Episode 268: Helping Your Kids Cope With A Different Holiday Season with Erin Slutsky

Episode 268: Helping Your Kids Cope With A Different Holiday Season with Erin Slutsky

Yes, it’s been a different year, and it’s been hard on us and especially hard on our kiddos.  With many holiday traditions changing due to the pandemic, how do you still make the holiday special?  You’ll love my conversation with Erin Slutsky who specializes in coaching moms to be as effective as possible.  Enjoy!

 

About Our Guest

Erin is a Midwest based entrepreneur, encourager, and enneagram geek. She values effective interactions, seeks efficient strategies, and eagerly strives to see people become who they were meant to be. 

As Erin entered the season where her kids started leaving the nest, she was left asking herself, “Who am I? What is my purpose? How can I use all my experience mentoring and leading women for over 20 years, my nursing background, and my knowledge of the Enneagram?”  

The study of the enneagram focused her quest and helped her to better understand her own personality, her experiences, and her purpose. And for the first time in her life, she felt acceptance for what makes her uniquely herself. Not only did she learn to love and accept herself, she also gained tools to better see and hear where others are on their journeys of self-awareness. She has personally experienced the improvement in the quality of her life and relationships. Utilizing the tools of the enneagram has given her the focus and clarity to live her life with greater awareness and confidence, and her training enables her to share these gifts with her individual clients and organizations.

Tips From The Show

Knowing what you and your kid’s value (according to your Enneagram Type) will help you manage expectations this viral holiday season.

3 Centers of Intelligence and what they value- How each Enneagram type processes the world

Head-5,6,7

Heart-2,3,4

Gut-8,9,1

We shouldn’t type kids but we can see which center they function in most.

Your (mom) type may be different than kid’s.  Therefore your expectations may be different.

Adjust celebration according to your values and their values.

It's time for Holiday Sanity!

Grab your free course to learn the four-step planning process for a stress-less Holiday season.

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Episode 264: Operating From A Family Business Plan with Danielle Bettmann

Episode 264: Operating From A Family Business Plan with Danielle Bettmann

Sometimes it’s easy to rock it at work because there is a strategy and an execution plan.  It might not always be easy, but you can come back to the plan.  What if the same could be said for your home life as well?

In this episode, I am joined by Danielle Bettmann and she is going to walk through creating a family business plan to help us take out the stress of parenting and managing a home while being a working mom.

 

About Our Guest

Danielle Bettmann is the owner & parenting coach of Wholeheartedly. She offers individualized 1-on-1 coaching, offering problem-solving, support & accountability so you can better understand & connect with your littles. She’s also the host of the Failing Motherhood podcast, working to normalize the struggle and share vulnerable stories of feeling like a “failure”, reminding you that YOU are the parent your child needs.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

What is a family business plan and why is it important?

Your family needs the vision and direction that we give to our work and a with a family business plan, you can do just that.  It helps you identify your core values, and your family identity, and end goals.  When you do, you will save both time and money because you now have a measuring stick to help make decisions in alignment with your values.

 

Questions to ask yourself:

  • How are you showing up for those values?  Remember, you are the example your family will follow.
  • What is your weakest link?
  • How are you growing toward the values and family identity you have?  Maybe committing to reading a parting book once a quarter.

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My website is: www.parentingwholeheartedly.com
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Episode 263: Teaching Kids Through Chores with Ashley Buffa

Episode 263: Teaching Kids Through Chores with Ashley Buffa

Do you have your kids do chores?  As a working mom, this can be a hard battle.  We want the best for our kids, but our time with them is limited so how do we set up a structure for chores that make sense, is easy to manage and enforce, but also helps our kids succeed?  That is what we are diving into this episode!  We are joined by a mom of 10 (yep, 10 kids), Ashley Buffa and she is sharing with us about chores.  Listen in as we talk about why chores are important (and how chores really can save the world), how to figure out what chores your kids should be doing, and how to not let a chore system that you implement just fall by the wayside but actually work.

 

About Our Guest

Ashley Buffa is the mother of 10 children (yes, 10!), a business owner, and a dedicated, nonperfectionist home systems extraordinaire! She is passionate about teaching overwhelmed Moms how to transform themselves from a minion martyr mindset into confident, capable, respected home CEO’s. Ashley is committed to helping ALL Moms (working moms, stay at home moms, homeschooling moms, ADHD moms, and any other kind of Mom who wants a change!) realize and achieve a calm, peaceful, neat space that really feels like Home Sweet Home.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

Why are chores important?

It’s important to teach our kids to be contributors and not takers.  We want them to learn life skills and how to take care of themselves and their home when they are adults.  Chores help kids realize that they are apart of something bigger and that their contribution matters.

At what age do start your kids with chores and what do you have them doing?

Kids at 2-3 can start to do things that move the needle for the family.  They love to contribute and do it.  Just give them a wet rag when you are cooking and have them wash the baseboards or lower kitchen cabinets.  When they are 5-6 you can start working them into the family chore system and a structure of daily chores.

Steps to implement a chore system:

  1. Take it slow.  Remember, you are not just training the kids but you are training yourself too.
  2. Work on creating a habit for ourselves.
  3. Start with one chore per child per week.

Once chores are introduced, how do you manage the system?

Anchor the chores to a time in the day when everyone is together.  Inspect what you expect.  

Looking for more tips and inspiration designed for working Christian moms?

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freedommoms.com

@freedommoms Instagram
https://www.facebook.com/thefreedommoms
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbZ7v6E2NpuF3Gg5Ex3RFkQ

 

Episode 262: 4 Pillars Of Health For Our Kids

Episode 262: 4 Pillars Of Health For Our Kids

Ok, we know that this is a hard year for everyone, but it is especially hard on our kiddos. As a mom, it breaks my heart to watch my kids struggle and so I invited Dr. Melissa to come on the show to empower us to lead our kids in their health to help them thrive.  We are not just talking about physical health, but mental and spiritual health too.

 

About Our Guest

Dr. Melissa Choi is a board-certified family and obesity medicine physician. She grew up in
Minnesota spent her college and medical school years in Rhode Island and returned to
Minnesota with her husband 11 years ago. They have 3 daughters under the age of 10. When
she is not caring for patients, she enjoys trying new recipes in her kitchen, going on bike rides
with her family, and having meaningful conversations with friends and neighbors over coffee.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

4 Pillars of Health: Sleep, Diet, Exercise, Mental/Spiritual Health

Sleep:
● Deprivation can lead to health problems such as high blood pressure, difficulty
concentrating, irritability, obesity
● Children with adequate sleep have a healthier immune system, improved concentration
and mental health

Diet:
● Healthy food choices
● Limiting processed foods, which can increase inflammation and decrease immune
system
● Whole foods (e.g. fruits, vegetables, things not in packages)
● Drinking water and milk (avoid juice, soda, sugar drinks)
● Healthy snacks but not too close to dinner

Exercise/Screen Time:
● Physical activity at least 60 minutes per day
● Do things as a family: bike rides, tennis, ice skating, sledding
● Invite a friend to go on a bike ride
● No more than 2 hours of screen time per day
● Limit areas where screens are (e.g. not in bedrooms, not at the dinner table)
● Challenge to balance screen-time with remote learning or hybrid learning
○ Take breaks when using computer/tablets for long periods of time
○ Have kids do as much work off screens (e.g. worksheets, etc.) as possible

Mental and Spiritual Health:
● Taking time connecting as a family, praying together
● Reading their bible, talking about it as a family
● Reaching out to neighbors, playing with friends socially distanced
● Helping others in our community

Looking for more tips and inspiration designed for working Christian moms?

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Instagram: @themomplate

Episode 254:  Helping Your Tween Explore Their Faith

Episode 254: Helping Your Tween Explore Their Faith

Today we are joined by the Authors of Honest Answers: Exploring God Questions with Your Tween, Janelle Alberts, and Ingrid Faro.  Even if you are not the moms of tweens, the knowledge shared about presenting the Gospel to our kiddos is priceless.  Although we raise our kids in the church, they will go through their own journey to come and find the Lord.  Listen in to this conversation to learn how to apply grace, plant seeds of hope, and be there for your kids without being their savior (this was a big take away for me!)

About Our Guests

Janelle Alberts spent her early career in PR departments for Microsoft and UPS, boiling down logical, clear corporate messaging. She now attempts the same for parents who love Scripture, often featuring bits we’ve never heard but wish we had. Alberts wrote her first faith column for the Akron Beacon Journal in 2010 and has since been a regular contributor to various online sites including Christianity Today’s Gifted for Leadership, RELEVANT magazine, and others. Honest Answers is her first book. Alberts and her family make their home in Ohio.

Ingrid Faro is dean of academic affairs and associate professor of Old Testament at Northern Seminary. She is also an associate professor of Old Testament at the Scandinavian School of Theology in Sweden. She has an MDiv and Ph.D. from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. Faro is an international speaker at conferences and churches and writes on topics that include navigating evil and suffering, abuse and power dynamics, women in the Bible, forgiveness, the goodness of God, identity in Christ, discipleship, and leadership. Her motivation is to encourage people, help them navigate the pain and suffering of this world, and grow in a thriving relationship with God and others. She is the coauthor of Honest Answers. Faro has two married children and three grandchildren. She lives in Illinois.

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Episode 253: Building a Strong Foundation For Back To School

Episode 253: Building a Strong Foundation For Back To School

To say this back to school season is different than usual is an understatement.  But regardless of what school will look like for your kids, there are some strong foundations that as the mom, we can provide for our kids.
 
Did you know that there are 8 areas of life for our kids that we can help them balance?  In this episode, we dive into them and how we can help our kids be well equipped for the year ahead.
 

Action Items and Tips From the Show

As our kids are going back to school, it’s important that we focus on the things that we can control.

  1. When it comes to rapid changes with how our kids are doing school (distance, in-classroom, etc), there are things that we can keep consistent for them.  For example, morning and nighttime routines, and weekly and or daily check-ins.
  2. Think outside of school.  There are so many different areas of life.  How can you support their growth and help them thrive in these other areas?
  3. Get organized!  Focus on setting up their calendar, environment, and communicate the goals that you set for your kids with all caregivers.  

You can get the full detailed guide that will walk you through step by step how to set this up.  Click here

(Life Balance Members, check the app under courses or go to the courses page on the website.  This resource is included in your membership.)

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