Episode 292: What Happens When A Workaholic Goes Part-Time

Episode 292: What Happens When A Workaholic Goes Part-Time

Have you ever thought about cutting back at work to give more time to other areas of your life?  It’s like the most common daydream for working moms and more and more of us are doing it.  But what if you are a workaholic?  Um….yeah.  I am with you.  I recently went part-time at work and this is what happened and the struggles I went through.  I have learned from this experience and now you can too!

Tips From The Show

Want to cut back for yourself?  Here are some tips to help you navigate the waters:

  1. Be intentional about what you want and need and why you need it
  2. Seek to make it happen.  Make a plan and be clear on what you need to produce and make a plan to achieve it.
  3. Prepare mentally.  It can be a hard shift…see the three things I learned down below.
  4. Prepare your environment for success.  Get organized!
  5. Give yourself grace.  Slowing down is a new way of being and it will be a journey full of lessons to learn.

After slowing down myself, I found it to be a hard process.  Here are the 3 biggest lessons I learned from the process.

  1. Being still is important and really hard.  You’ll have more time that is not filled with the “hurry of life”.  This feels uncomfortable.  Fill the void with God.  Use the time to put him first and go on this journey with him.
  2. My mind is wired to think about work when it’s not time to work.  It pulls me back into wanting to work more but I have to learn my new way of being.  So, time blocking has been huge to set those boundaries.  I also have an ongoing list on my phone so when those thoughts come up, I have a place for them to go so when it is work time, I can focus on executing those things.
  3. My identity has been challenged.  I am having to view myself as a whole person and not just what I do for work and the value that I provide there.  Focusing on the value I bring to my family and community has been really important to me.

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Episode 276: Clear The Clutter In Your Home

Episode 276: Clear The Clutter In Your Home

Do you have a goal of having a more organized home this year?  It can be hard as a working mom to find the time to give our homes the attention it needs and clutter can start to pile up.

In this episode, we are going to be talking about three tips to help you end the battle with clutter for good this year!

Action Items and Tips From the Show

  1. Paper tends to be one of the biggest issues when it comes to clutter.  Simply have a place in your house where you store paper until you are ready to deal with it and have a day of the week when you schedule time to deal with it.  I did a YouTube video on this topic to show you my paper system.  You can watch it here: https://youtu.be/QtoJ-qp_yBk
  2. Create new habits to help you deal with clutter.
    • Pick up 20 things in the morning and at night
    • Get in the habit of weekly planning and cleaning
  3. Identify the habits that create clutter.  How can you change that habit?

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Episode 264: Operating From A Family Business Plan with Danielle Bettmann

Episode 264: Operating From A Family Business Plan with Danielle Bettmann

Sometimes it’s easy to rock it at work because there is a strategy and an execution plan.  It might not always be easy, but you can come back to the plan.  What if the same could be said for your home life as well?

In this episode, I am joined by Danielle Bettmann and she is going to walk through creating a family business plan to help us take out the stress of parenting and managing a home while being a working mom.

 

About Our Guest

Danielle Bettmann is the owner & parenting coach of Wholeheartedly. She offers individualized 1-on-1 coaching, offering problem-solving, support & accountability so you can better understand & connect with your littles. She’s also the host of the Failing Motherhood podcast, working to normalize the struggle and share vulnerable stories of feeling like a “failure”, reminding you that YOU are the parent your child needs.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

What is a family business plan and why is it important?

Your family needs the vision and direction that we give to our work and a with a family business plan, you can do just that.  It helps you identify your core values, and your family identity, and end goals.  When you do, you will save both time and money because you now have a measuring stick to help make decisions in alignment with your values.

 

Questions to ask yourself:

  • How are you showing up for those values?  Remember, you are the example your family will follow.
  • What is your weakest link?
  • How are you growing toward the values and family identity you have?  Maybe committing to reading a parting book once a quarter.

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Learn More About Our Guest

My website is: www.parentingwholeheartedly.com
Calm your BIG Emotions Workbook *FREEBIE* – www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/emotions
Follow me on www.Instagram.com/parent_wholeheartedly
www.Facebook.com/wholeheartedlyomaha
Failing Motherhood: https://failingmotherhood.buzzsprout.com/
Private FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/failingmotherhood

 

Episode 263: Teaching Kids Through Chores with Ashley Buffa

Episode 263: Teaching Kids Through Chores with Ashley Buffa

Do you have your kids do chores?  As a working mom, this can be a hard battle.  We want the best for our kids, but our time with them is limited so how do we set up a structure for chores that make sense, is easy to manage and enforce, but also helps our kids succeed?  That is what we are diving into this episode!  We are joined by a mom of 10 (yep, 10 kids), Ashley Buffa and she is sharing with us about chores.  Listen in as we talk about why chores are important (and how chores really can save the world), how to figure out what chores your kids should be doing, and how to not let a chore system that you implement just fall by the wayside but actually work.

 

About Our Guest

Ashley Buffa is the mother of 10 children (yes, 10!), a business owner, and a dedicated, nonperfectionist home systems extraordinaire! She is passionate about teaching overwhelmed Moms how to transform themselves from a minion martyr mindset into confident, capable, respected home CEO’s. Ashley is committed to helping ALL Moms (working moms, stay at home moms, homeschooling moms, ADHD moms, and any other kind of Mom who wants a change!) realize and achieve a calm, peaceful, neat space that really feels like Home Sweet Home.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

Why are chores important?

It’s important to teach our kids to be contributors and not takers.  We want them to learn life skills and how to take care of themselves and their home when they are adults.  Chores help kids realize that they are apart of something bigger and that their contribution matters.

At what age do start your kids with chores and what do you have them doing?

Kids at 2-3 can start to do things that move the needle for the family.  They love to contribute and do it.  Just give them a wet rag when you are cooking and have them wash the baseboards or lower kitchen cabinets.  When they are 5-6 you can start working them into the family chore system and a structure of daily chores.

Steps to implement a chore system:

  1. Take it slow.  Remember, you are not just training the kids but you are training yourself too.
  2. Work on creating a habit for ourselves.
  3. Start with one chore per child per week.

Once chores are introduced, how do you manage the system?

Anchor the chores to a time in the day when everyone is together.  Inspect what you expect.  

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Learn More About Our Guest

freedommoms.com

@freedommoms Instagram
https://www.facebook.com/thefreedommoms
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbZ7v6E2NpuF3Gg5Ex3RFkQ

 

Episode 225: Dealing with Paper Clutter Once and For All with Jennifer Ford-Berry

Episode 225: Dealing with Paper Clutter Once and For All with Jennifer Ford-Berry

Paper is a constant problem when it comes to home organization and no matter how many systems we try, if we don’t deal with our mindset around clutter, we will just end up back in our mess.

This is where this week’s expert guest comes in!  Join me in my conversation with Jennifer Ford-Berry as we discuss how to get our mindset where it needs to be so we can tackle the clutter once and for all.  Oh, and she is sharing some great tips on her paper system as well.

Jennifer Ford Berry is an organizational expert, best-selling author, host of The 29 Minute Mom podcast, national speaker and promoter of God’s plan.

Her book series include:

-Organize Now! a week-by-week guide to simplify your space & your life

-Organize Now! your money, business & career 

-Organize Now! think & live clutter-free 

–Organize Now! 12 month home & activity planner

-Purpose Over Possessions: decluttering your life so you can live on purpose

Jennifer was previously the regular organizing expert on the TV show: Winging It, Buffalo Style.  Jennifer has been a guest on numerous television and radio shows.  She has also been featured in many national magazines and newspapers.  She is an animated speaker who has presented to the Learning Annex, corporations, churches, national conferences, mom groups, and school districts.  She is the founder of the Created Order Conference for women and the Blurry Conference for teens.

Facebook: Jennifer Ford Berry

Instagram: @jenniferfordberry

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Episode 221:  A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Episode 221: A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Last week we wrapped up our series that lead us to Christmas called walking with Jesus.  I loved hearing from other working moms about their faith and all that Jesus as done in their lives.  

Next week we are starting a new series diving deep into some areas of life that you might have the most pressing goals to achieve for the new year.  I didn’t say new year resolution, but it might be that for you, or just some intentions for the new year, goals for your life or really whatever you want to call it, it doesn’t matter.  But if you are looking for improvement in your health, finances, home or other area of your life, you want to make sure you hit subscribe if you haven’t already so you don’t miss any of the great experts we have lined up.

So, with last week ending a series and next week starting a series, we are in a week of transition.  And really that is what this week has been all about….meaning the week between Christmas and New years.  It is my favorite week of the year because it is quiet, there isn’t that much going on and I can just breath, think, and be.

Every year I use this week to reflect on areas of my life, give gratitude, dream a little and just talk to God about bigger things than I normally get to on a daily bais.  I go through a process that allows me better insight to setting goals and getting ready to accomplish them.  

It is this exact system that I have been teaching to our Life Balance members this week.  If you are not a life Balance member, you can still join us! The great thing is that we are walking through a pre-recorded course that you can start really at anytime.  It’s a 7-day new program that has been added to the membership and it will help you get clear on your goals in a whole new way.  

In this episode, I wanted to share with you one of the priciples that we teach in this progam.  It’s a different way of setting goals than most people do.

Often when we set goals, they are out of pain of some kind.  For example, maybe you want to lose weight because you are not comfortalbe in your clothes, someone has said something to you or you experienced something that was hurtful.  Maybe you had a doctor appointment and the results were scary and it has caused you to look differently at your health. Maybe you are setting goals around your finances because you are tired of working hard and not getting ahead.  Your tired and want to afford a vacation or you are feeling the pinch of debt.

When we feel this pain or discomfort, it moves us to make a change.  When we decide to make a change, we start looking for the solution or a recipe to follow.  This is where things get complicated. Do you know how many diet plans are out there that you could follow?  I don’t either because there are new ones popping up all the time. I always say the best health program out there is the one that you will stick to.  And that is just for health, the same can be said for any area of life that you want to improve.  

Now, there is nothing wrong with seeking outside information, learning, or finding someone that can help you.  But often times we miss a huge step in the process. We forget that if we really want to change, it takes power…willpower.  And guess what? We are not nearly as powerful as our maker is. How much easier would it be to reach your goals if the Spirit of God was working in your favor to help you get there?

Seeking God in our goal setting process is critical for success in achieving it, but more than that, when we are on board with God’s will for any situation, the peace and grace is unmeasurable.

Bringing our desires to God is the first step.  Letting his grace extend past what we are capable of will help us get to where we want to go.  The other awesome things about journeying toward where you want to go with God, is that his grace overflows to other areas of your life.

That is the second point to what we are doing in Life Balance, we are looking at all areas of life, not just the one that is causing pain.  Do you know why it is causing pain? Becuase it has been neglected. When we set a goal based on our pain points alone, we tend to shift the focus to the one area of life and that can set us off balance and strart to neglect other areas of our life….you guessed it…they will be come future pain points.  It starts to create a cycle. 

Think about it as if you were spinning plates on poles like they do in the circus.  When you go the method of focusing on the one area that needed the most, you are not paying attention to the other plates spinning until they are just about ready to crash.  Then you have to rush to rescue the other areas before they come crashing to the ground.

Instead, if you have a system to keep the plates all going, and you are able to calmly check in on each one, give it a little of what it needs to keep going, it becomes much more managable.  And when life happens and the unexpected happens, if you followed the first step, you have the Holy Spirit by your side to help you.

That is exactly what we are doing inside Life Balance Membership.  Teaching you the system to do just that. That is what has always been in the membership.  The new course that we are going through right now, is really helping you first look to God for a vision for the year and then assessing each area of your life to get a direction toward what is needed to keep that area healthy.  Once we go through each area, then it’s all about taking that direction you have discoved and bringing it back to God. This prepares you to be able to live it out with the Life Balance System.

 

 

This is the kind of exercise that we are doing for each area of life.  It’s real. It’s not sexy. But it give you a clear vision of where you are and what you need to be focused on.  

Now we we are setting goals in Life Balance, it’s not to solve all the things.  It is about making progress in 90-days. That is the goal.  

I have said this before, but in case you have not heard me say it or you just need a reminder:

You can set goals in all areas of your life….and you should.  Goals are different than a life change. Want to lose 50 lbs? That is a life change not a goal.  Looking for a new career? That’s a life change. Having a baby? That is a life change. While you can have multiple goals, I don’t recommend multiple life changes.  You will go into survive mode and it’s not only difficult, it will painful.

Your life change might be to lose 50lbs but your 90-day health goal might be to focus on your water everyday, sticking to your eating plan, or adding in physical activity.  

I hope these tips help you as you start to look toward the new year.  Let me recap what we talked about.

  1.  Look to God and his strength before you start after your goals in your own.
  2. Look to set goals in all areas of your life, not just one.
  3. A life change is different than a goal.  Don’t do more than one life change at a time.

Like I said at the begininning of this episdoe, it’s not too late to join us inside of Life Balance Membership and go through this 7-day process for yourself.  You can upgrade right inside the app or by going to Life Balance Membership.com

 

Next week we are back and starting our new series!  If you are new to the show, our new series is reflective of what we are all about.  I’ll be brining you expert guests in each of the 8 areas of life to help inspire you to be the best version of yourself in each area.  Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it!

 

Until next week, keep building a life that rocks

 

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