Episode 264: Operating From A Family Business Plan with Danielle Bettmann

Episode 264: Operating From A Family Business Plan with Danielle Bettmann

Sometimes it’s easy to rock it at work because there is a strategy and an execution plan.  It might not always be easy, but you can come back to the plan.  What if the same could be said for your home life as well?

In this episode, I am joined by Danielle Bettmann and she is going to walk through creating a family business plan to help us take out the stress of parenting and managing a home while being a working mom.

 

About Our Guest

Danielle Bettmann is the owner & parenting coach of Wholeheartedly. She offers individualized 1-on-1 coaching, offering problem-solving, support & accountability so you can better understand & connect with your littles. She’s also the host of the Failing Motherhood podcast, working to normalize the struggle and share vulnerable stories of feeling like a “failure”, reminding you that YOU are the parent your child needs.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

What is a family business plan and why is it important?

Your family needs the vision and direction that we give to our work and a with a family business plan, you can do just that.  It helps you identify your core values, and your family identity, and end goals.  When you do, you will save both time and money because you now have a measuring stick to help make decisions in alignment with your values.

 

Questions to ask yourself:

  • How are you showing up for those values?  Remember, you are the example your family will follow.
  • What is your weakest link?
  • How are you growing toward the values and family identity you have?  Maybe committing to reading a parting book once a quarter.

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My website is: www.parentingwholeheartedly.com
Calm your BIG Emotions Workbook *FREEBIE* – www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/emotions
Follow me on www.Instagram.com/parent_wholeheartedly
www.Facebook.com/wholeheartedlyomaha
Failing Motherhood: https://failingmotherhood.buzzsprout.com/
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Episode 263: Teaching Kids Through Chores with Ashley Buffa

Episode 263: Teaching Kids Through Chores with Ashley Buffa

Do you have your kids do chores?  As a working mom, this can be a hard battle.  We want the best for our kids, but our time with them is limited so how do we set up a structure for chores that make sense, is easy to manage and enforce, but also helps our kids succeed?  That is what we are diving into this episode!  We are joined by a mom of 10 (yep, 10 kids), Ashley Buffa and she is sharing with us about chores.  Listen in as we talk about why chores are important (and how chores really can save the world), how to figure out what chores your kids should be doing, and how to not let a chore system that you implement just fall by the wayside but actually work.

 

About Our Guest

Ashley Buffa is the mother of 10 children (yes, 10!), a business owner, and a dedicated, nonperfectionist home systems extraordinaire! She is passionate about teaching overwhelmed Moms how to transform themselves from a minion martyr mindset into confident, capable, respected home CEO’s. Ashley is committed to helping ALL Moms (working moms, stay at home moms, homeschooling moms, ADHD moms, and any other kind of Mom who wants a change!) realize and achieve a calm, peaceful, neat space that really feels like Home Sweet Home.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

Why are chores important?

It’s important to teach our kids to be contributors and not takers.  We want them to learn life skills and how to take care of themselves and their home when they are adults.  Chores help kids realize that they are apart of something bigger and that their contribution matters.

At what age do start your kids with chores and what do you have them doing?

Kids at 2-3 can start to do things that move the needle for the family.  They love to contribute and do it.  Just give them a wet rag when you are cooking and have them wash the baseboards or lower kitchen cabinets.  When they are 5-6 you can start working them into the family chore system and a structure of daily chores.

Steps to implement a chore system:

  1. Take it slow.  Remember, you are not just training the kids but you are training yourself too.
  2. Work on creating a habit for ourselves.
  3. Start with one chore per child per week.

Once chores are introduced, how do you manage the system?

Anchor the chores to a time in the day when everyone is together.  Inspect what you expect.  

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freedommoms.com

@freedommoms Instagram
https://www.facebook.com/thefreedommoms
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbZ7v6E2NpuF3Gg5Ex3RFkQ

 

Episode 225: Dealing with Paper Clutter Once and For All with Jennifer Ford-Berry

Episode 225: Dealing with Paper Clutter Once and For All with Jennifer Ford-Berry

Paper is a constant problem when it comes to home organization and no matter how many systems we try, if we don’t deal with our mindset around clutter, we will just end up back in our mess.

This is where this week’s expert guest comes in!  Join me in my conversation with Jennifer Ford-Berry as we discuss how to get our mindset where it needs to be so we can tackle the clutter once and for all.  Oh, and she is sharing some great tips on her paper system as well.

Jennifer Ford Berry is an organizational expert, best-selling author, host of The 29 Minute Mom podcast, national speaker and promoter of God’s plan.

Her book series include:

-Organize Now! a week-by-week guide to simplify your space & your life

-Organize Now! your money, business & career 

-Organize Now! think & live clutter-free 

–Organize Now! 12 month home & activity planner

-Purpose Over Possessions: decluttering your life so you can live on purpose

Jennifer was previously the regular organizing expert on the TV show: Winging It, Buffalo Style.  Jennifer has been a guest on numerous television and radio shows.  She has also been featured in many national magazines and newspapers.  She is an animated speaker who has presented to the Learning Annex, corporations, churches, national conferences, mom groups, and school districts.  She is the founder of the Created Order Conference for women and the Blurry Conference for teens.

Facebook: Jennifer Ford Berry

Instagram: @jenniferfordberry

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Episode 221:  A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Episode 221: A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Last week we wrapped up our series that lead us to Christmas called walking with Jesus.  I loved hearing from other working moms about their faith and all that Jesus as done in their lives.  

Next week we are starting a new series diving deep into some areas of life that you might have the most pressing goals to achieve for the new year.  I didn’t say new year resolution, but it might be that for you, or just some intentions for the new year, goals for your life or really whatever you want to call it, it doesn’t matter.  But if you are looking for improvement in your health, finances, home or other area of your life, you want to make sure you hit subscribe if you haven’t already so you don’t miss any of the great experts we have lined up.

So, with last week ending a series and next week starting a series, we are in a week of transition.  And really that is what this week has been all about….meaning the week between Christmas and New years.  It is my favorite week of the year because it is quiet, there isn’t that much going on and I can just breath, think, and be.

Every year I use this week to reflect on areas of my life, give gratitude, dream a little and just talk to God about bigger things than I normally get to on a daily bais.  I go through a process that allows me better insight to setting goals and getting ready to accomplish them.  

It is this exact system that I have been teaching to our Life Balance members this week.  If you are not a life Balance member, you can still join us! The great thing is that we are walking through a pre-recorded course that you can start really at anytime.  It’s a 7-day new program that has been added to the membership and it will help you get clear on your goals in a whole new way.  

In this episode, I wanted to share with you one of the priciples that we teach in this progam.  It’s a different way of setting goals than most people do.

Often when we set goals, they are out of pain of some kind.  For example, maybe you want to lose weight because you are not comfortalbe in your clothes, someone has said something to you or you experienced something that was hurtful.  Maybe you had a doctor appointment and the results were scary and it has caused you to look differently at your health. Maybe you are setting goals around your finances because you are tired of working hard and not getting ahead.  Your tired and want to afford a vacation or you are feeling the pinch of debt.

When we feel this pain or discomfort, it moves us to make a change.  When we decide to make a change, we start looking for the solution or a recipe to follow.  This is where things get complicated. Do you know how many diet plans are out there that you could follow?  I don’t either because there are new ones popping up all the time. I always say the best health program out there is the one that you will stick to.  And that is just for health, the same can be said for any area of life that you want to improve.  

Now, there is nothing wrong with seeking outside information, learning, or finding someone that can help you.  But often times we miss a huge step in the process. We forget that if we really want to change, it takes power…willpower.  And guess what? We are not nearly as powerful as our maker is. How much easier would it be to reach your goals if the Spirit of God was working in your favor to help you get there?

Seeking God in our goal setting process is critical for success in achieving it, but more than that, when we are on board with God’s will for any situation, the peace and grace is unmeasurable.

Bringing our desires to God is the first step.  Letting his grace extend past what we are capable of will help us get to where we want to go.  The other awesome things about journeying toward where you want to go with God, is that his grace overflows to other areas of your life.

That is the second point to what we are doing in Life Balance, we are looking at all areas of life, not just the one that is causing pain.  Do you know why it is causing pain? Becuase it has been neglected. When we set a goal based on our pain points alone, we tend to shift the focus to the one area of life and that can set us off balance and strart to neglect other areas of our life….you guessed it…they will be come future pain points.  It starts to create a cycle. 

Think about it as if you were spinning plates on poles like they do in the circus.  When you go the method of focusing on the one area that needed the most, you are not paying attention to the other plates spinning until they are just about ready to crash.  Then you have to rush to rescue the other areas before they come crashing to the ground.

Instead, if you have a system to keep the plates all going, and you are able to calmly check in on each one, give it a little of what it needs to keep going, it becomes much more managable.  And when life happens and the unexpected happens, if you followed the first step, you have the Holy Spirit by your side to help you.

That is exactly what we are doing inside Life Balance Membership.  Teaching you the system to do just that. That is what has always been in the membership.  The new course that we are going through right now, is really helping you first look to God for a vision for the year and then assessing each area of your life to get a direction toward what is needed to keep that area healthy.  Once we go through each area, then it’s all about taking that direction you have discoved and bringing it back to God. This prepares you to be able to live it out with the Life Balance System.

 

 

This is the kind of exercise that we are doing for each area of life.  It’s real. It’s not sexy. But it give you a clear vision of where you are and what you need to be focused on.  

Now we we are setting goals in Life Balance, it’s not to solve all the things.  It is about making progress in 90-days. That is the goal.  

I have said this before, but in case you have not heard me say it or you just need a reminder:

You can set goals in all areas of your life….and you should.  Goals are different than a life change. Want to lose 50 lbs? That is a life change not a goal.  Looking for a new career? That’s a life change. Having a baby? That is a life change. While you can have multiple goals, I don’t recommend multiple life changes.  You will go into survive mode and it’s not only difficult, it will painful.

Your life change might be to lose 50lbs but your 90-day health goal might be to focus on your water everyday, sticking to your eating plan, or adding in physical activity.  

I hope these tips help you as you start to look toward the new year.  Let me recap what we talked about.

  1.  Look to God and his strength before you start after your goals in your own.
  2. Look to set goals in all areas of your life, not just one.
  3. A life change is different than a goal.  Don’t do more than one life change at a time.

Like I said at the begininning of this episdoe, it’s not too late to join us inside of Life Balance Membership and go through this 7-day process for yourself.  You can upgrade right inside the app or by going to Life Balance Membership.com

 

Next week we are back and starting our new series!  If you are new to the show, our new series is reflective of what we are all about.  I’ll be brining you expert guests in each of the 8 areas of life to help inspire you to be the best version of yourself in each area.  Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it!

 

Until next week, keep building a life that rocks

 

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Episode 212: Getting Back on Track When You Feel Unbalanced

Episode 212: Getting Back on Track When You Feel Unbalanced

Last week we talked about recovering from burn out and how to fill up your bucket.  If you didn’t listen to that episode, I hope you go back and listen because it is tied to this week’s show.  If you did listen, you might remember at the begining of the show I said that if you are feeling out of balance, guilt is creeping in, and overwhelm and stress is starting to take over, there are likely two reasons why.

  1. You are out of balance in an area of your life
  2. Or your bucket is empty.

Since we covered the second reason last week, I thought it would be good to cover the first reason this week.  I mean why only cover half of what you need?

Here’s the thing, sometimes we get to the place of the crazies because life is crazy and something comes along and takes us out of the game.  It could be getting sick, hurt, or something happening to a loved one, an unexpected change in your job or relationship with someone. But sometimes it’s because we are living in an unbalanced way.

Both can be really hard on us, but if it’s the unbalanced stuff?  That can be easier to come back from.  

Let’s first talk about balance.  I know, so many people say that it’s not possible but I say it is…you just have to define it for yourself.

Here is what works for me.  Balance is not a place to arrive to.  It’s not an accomplishment. It is a verb.  It’s an action that we choose to take each day in our lives to be the best version of ourselves in all that God has called us to be.  

I can get out of balance when I choose not to do what is necessary to be the best version of myself.  Sometimes it’s because I get lazy, or I get excited about a work project or something else that causes me to neglect the other things I know I should be doing.  And you know what? It’s ok. As long as you can bring yourself back.

Think of it as if you were balancinging on a curb.  If you lean one way, you are ok as long as you lean back the other way.  If you don’t, you fall. If you fall, you are no longer balancing.

So how do you know when life is getting a bit unbalanced?  Let me tell you a secret. Your calendar won’t cue you into this.  Balance has nothing to do with your time and where it is spent. I can feel balance in my finances by only spending 3 hours a month in that area of my life.  

You will know you are out of balance by the little things that stress you out.  The undone things in your life. The feelings of guilt.

Yep, feelings of guilt can be healthy.  I know as a mom we are told to avoid mom guilt.  No one likes to feel unpleasant feelings. But they are there for a reason.  Listen to them and take action. These feelings of guilt can get unhealthy when we push them down and put our head in the sand.  But if we ask ourselves, why we are feeling that way and make a plan to course correct, then gult can be a powerful tool to help you stay on  the intentional track that you want to be on.

So, if you have been experiencing any of these things, the steps I have for you to reclaim balance for yourself will help.

  • Feeling guility about things you are not doing
  • Super stressed about money, or things that need to be done at home
  • Gaining weight
  • Feeling out of touch with your husband, or other relationship
  • Felling disconnected with God

Any of these ringing true for you?

Now before we get into what to do about it.  I want to first say, that there is no shame. No one is every going to feel 100% balanced and good with every area of life all the time.  If you can realate to the feelings above all it means is that you are normal. You are not doing anything wrong. It is just life this side of heaven.  In fact, if you are feeling any of these things….count it as a blessing. Thank God that he has put a warning system inside us called emotions. They help us from driving completely off the rails.  

Ok, enough with that.  Let’s get into what to do about it.

Simply put, lean into it.  If you feel like you are not being a good mom, ask yourself….what does me look like as a good mom?  Notice the question is what does it look like when you are a good mom….not what your neighbor or the other girl in your kids class’s mom is doing that you are not.  We are all different. We do things different. Let’s not compare ourselves to eachother, let’s just get to know ourselves. What does it look like when you are your best at being a mom?  What does it look like when you need to step up your game?

When you define what better would be in any area that you feel is lacking….do it.

Not sure what area is lacking but you just know you are feeling out of wack?  Pull out your journal…let’s go through each area of life. Faith, marriage, parenting, career, home, health, finances, friendships/fun.

Journal out what the best version of you does in each of these areas.  This is what the Life Balance course is all about. Helping you identify these things and more importantly, make a plan to get there.

But here is the thing.  You have to make the effort to do it.  Otherwise you are not listening to the warning signs and trust me.  I have been there and you don’t want to see where that leads. It’s not pretty.

If you are finding yourself needed to recalibrate your balance, now is great time to do it.  The holidays are fast appraoching and can magnify anything that is not getting the attention that it needs in your life.  So take the 15 minutes or so and go through this exercise now and start making a plan to bring things back into balance now. 

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Ready to create balance in your life?  Life Balance membership contains the courses to help you build the systems of balance for working Christian moms.  Plus, you’ll have access to our Bible study, Setting Goals in God’s Will, planning tools to help you apply everything that you are learning, podcast bonus material, monthly group coaching, community support and more!  Start your free 7-day trial and get access to everything through the Your Life Rocks app or from your computer.

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Episode 210: Controlling the Chaos of Paper in Your Home with Lisa Woodruff (encore presentation)

Episode 210: Controlling the Chaos of Paper in Your Home with Lisa Woodruff (encore presentation)

Sometimes life gets a little too full and we have to prioritize.  That is what has happened this week.  I have a sick child in the hospital but wanted to make sure that there was a podcast for you this week.  So, I pulled our Facebook community and overwhelmingly, you all voted for an episode on taking care of your home.  This show originally aired back in 2017 as episode 96.  I hope you enjoy!

As a working mom, controlling chaos is our middle name.  But, I think we all have those piles of paper lurking around our home, cluttering our minds, and occupying the guilty thoughts in our head.  What if you could control all that paper and have a system that brought back your sanity?  Our guest for this episode, Professional Organizer Lisa Woodruff from Organize 365 podcast is here to rescue us!  She shares her tips for handling all the paper that comes into your house, including the school artwork. 

About Our Guest

Lisa Woodruff is a home organization expert, productivity specialist and author of The Mindset of Organization, Take Back Your House One Phase at a Time, & How ADHD Affects Home Organization. Lisa believes organization is not a skill you are born with. It is a skill that is developed over time and changes with each season of life.  Lisa has helped thousands of women reclaim their homes and finally get organized with her practical tips, encouragement, and humor through her blog and podcast at Organize365.com.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

ORGANIZATION 101: the SUNDAY BASKET

The Sunday Basket is Organization 101. Paper is here to stay. Creating systems for your paper will free your mental anxiety and help you be more productive.

  • Get a pretty basket/bag/container that sits on your kitchen counter that all the paper from the week goes in.

  • Adding to your Weekly Success Planning, schedule time on Sunday to go through your Sunday basket. Decide what you need to do with the paper that is in there (bill to pay, something to call on, throw away, file) and sort accordingly.

  • We don’t have to keep everything…..ask yourself this question: “If I need this in the future, can I find it online?” If the answer is yes, then get rid of it.

Lisa shared other great tips about what to do with all the school art that comes home, storing things in binders, and more!  Check out the podcast episode for more details.  

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Ready to create balance in your life?  Life Balance membership contains the courses to help you build the systems of balance for working Christian moms.  Plus, you’ll have access to our Bible study, Setting Goals in God’s Will, planning tools to help you apply everything that you are learning, podcast bonus material, monthly group coaching, community support and more!  Start your free 7-day trial and get access to everything through the Your Life Rocks app or from your computer.

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Website:  www.Organize365.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/Organize365/