Episode 221:  A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Episode 221: A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Last week we wrapped up our series that lead us to Christmas called walking with Jesus.  I loved hearing from other working moms about their faith and all that Jesus as done in their lives.  

Next week we are starting a new series diving deep into some areas of life that you might have the most pressing goals to achieve for the new year.  I didn’t say new year resolution, but it might be that for you, or just some intentions for the new year, goals for your life or really whatever you want to call it, it doesn’t matter.  But if you are looking for improvement in your health, finances, home or other area of your life, you want to make sure you hit subscribe if you haven’t already so you don’t miss any of the great experts we have lined up.

So, with last week ending a series and next week starting a series, we are in a week of transition.  And really that is what this week has been all about….meaning the week between Christmas and New years.  It is my favorite week of the year because it is quiet, there isn’t that much going on and I can just breath, think, and be.

Every year I use this week to reflect on areas of my life, give gratitude, dream a little and just talk to God about bigger things than I normally get to on a daily bais.  I go through a process that allows me better insight to setting goals and getting ready to accomplish them.  

It is this exact system that I have been teaching to our Life Balance members this week.  If you are not a life Balance member, you can still join us! The great thing is that we are walking through a pre-recorded course that you can start really at anytime.  It’s a 7-day new program that has been added to the membership and it will help you get clear on your goals in a whole new way.  

In this episode, I wanted to share with you one of the priciples that we teach in this progam.  It’s a different way of setting goals than most people do.

Often when we set goals, they are out of pain of some kind.  For example, maybe you want to lose weight because you are not comfortalbe in your clothes, someone has said something to you or you experienced something that was hurtful.  Maybe you had a doctor appointment and the results were scary and it has caused you to look differently at your health. Maybe you are setting goals around your finances because you are tired of working hard and not getting ahead.  Your tired and want to afford a vacation or you are feeling the pinch of debt.

When we feel this pain or discomfort, it moves us to make a change.  When we decide to make a change, we start looking for the solution or a recipe to follow.  This is where things get complicated. Do you know how many diet plans are out there that you could follow?  I don’t either because there are new ones popping up all the time. I always say the best health program out there is the one that you will stick to.  And that is just for health, the same can be said for any area of life that you want to improve.  

Now, there is nothing wrong with seeking outside information, learning, or finding someone that can help you.  But often times we miss a huge step in the process. We forget that if we really want to change, it takes power…willpower.  And guess what? We are not nearly as powerful as our maker is. How much easier would it be to reach your goals if the Spirit of God was working in your favor to help you get there?

Seeking God in our goal setting process is critical for success in achieving it, but more than that, when we are on board with God’s will for any situation, the peace and grace is unmeasurable.

Bringing our desires to God is the first step.  Letting his grace extend past what we are capable of will help us get to where we want to go.  The other awesome things about journeying toward where you want to go with God, is that his grace overflows to other areas of your life.

That is the second point to what we are doing in Life Balance, we are looking at all areas of life, not just the one that is causing pain.  Do you know why it is causing pain? Becuase it has been neglected. When we set a goal based on our pain points alone, we tend to shift the focus to the one area of life and that can set us off balance and strart to neglect other areas of our life….you guessed it…they will be come future pain points.  It starts to create a cycle. 

Think about it as if you were spinning plates on poles like they do in the circus.  When you go the method of focusing on the one area that needed the most, you are not paying attention to the other plates spinning until they are just about ready to crash.  Then you have to rush to rescue the other areas before they come crashing to the ground.

Instead, if you have a system to keep the plates all going, and you are able to calmly check in on each one, give it a little of what it needs to keep going, it becomes much more managable.  And when life happens and the unexpected happens, if you followed the first step, you have the Holy Spirit by your side to help you.

That is exactly what we are doing inside Life Balance Membership.  Teaching you the system to do just that. That is what has always been in the membership.  The new course that we are going through right now, is really helping you first look to God for a vision for the year and then assessing each area of your life to get a direction toward what is needed to keep that area healthy.  Once we go through each area, then it’s all about taking that direction you have discoved and bringing it back to God. This prepares you to be able to live it out with the Life Balance System.

 

 

This is the kind of exercise that we are doing for each area of life.  It’s real. It’s not sexy. But it give you a clear vision of where you are and what you need to be focused on.  

Now we we are setting goals in Life Balance, it’s not to solve all the things.  It is about making progress in 90-days. That is the goal.  

I have said this before, but in case you have not heard me say it or you just need a reminder:

You can set goals in all areas of your life….and you should.  Goals are different than a life change. Want to lose 50 lbs? That is a life change not a goal.  Looking for a new career? That’s a life change. Having a baby? That is a life change. While you can have multiple goals, I don’t recommend multiple life changes.  You will go into survive mode and it’s not only difficult, it will painful.

Your life change might be to lose 50lbs but your 90-day health goal might be to focus on your water everyday, sticking to your eating plan, or adding in physical activity.  

I hope these tips help you as you start to look toward the new year.  Let me recap what we talked about.

  1.  Look to God and his strength before you start after your goals in your own.
  2. Look to set goals in all areas of your life, not just one.
  3. A life change is different than a goal.  Don’t do more than one life change at a time.

Like I said at the begininning of this episdoe, it’s not too late to join us inside of Life Balance Membership and go through this 7-day process for yourself.  You can upgrade right inside the app or by going to Life Balance Membership.com

 

Next week we are back and starting our new series!  If you are new to the show, our new series is reflective of what we are all about.  I’ll be brining you expert guests in each of the 8 areas of life to help inspire you to be the best version of yourself in each area.  Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it!

 

Until next week, keep building a life that rocks

 

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Episode 214: Taking The Stress Out Of The Holidays

Episode 214: Taking The Stress Out Of The Holidays

Hey there!  This is a special episode because it is a dual cast for Redefining Balance for Working Moms podcast and the Mom Inspired Podcast!  Join Amber Sandberg and I as we sit down and chat about the reality of being a mom and coping with the added stress and pressure of the holiday season.  We each share our ideas, thoughts, and tips to give you grace (and maybe a couple of shortcuts) to make this season awesome but simple. 

We have both put together resources for you to make the holiday season easier!

Grab Amber’s gift guide for your husband here

Get the free Holiday Sanity Course inside the Your Life Rocks app or in your email by clicking here

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Episode 212: Getting Back on Track When You Feel Unbalanced

Episode 212: Getting Back on Track When You Feel Unbalanced

Last week we talked about recovering from burn out and how to fill up your bucket.  If you didn’t listen to that episode, I hope you go back and listen because it is tied to this week’s show.  If you did listen, you might remember at the begining of the show I said that if you are feeling out of balance, guilt is creeping in, and overwhelm and stress is starting to take over, there are likely two reasons why.

  1. You are out of balance in an area of your life
  2. Or your bucket is empty.

Since we covered the second reason last week, I thought it would be good to cover the first reason this week.  I mean why only cover half of what you need?

Here’s the thing, sometimes we get to the place of the crazies because life is crazy and something comes along and takes us out of the game.  It could be getting sick, hurt, or something happening to a loved one, an unexpected change in your job or relationship with someone. But sometimes it’s because we are living in an unbalanced way.

Both can be really hard on us, but if it’s the unbalanced stuff?  That can be easier to come back from.  

Let’s first talk about balance.  I know, so many people say that it’s not possible but I say it is…you just have to define it for yourself.

Here is what works for me.  Balance is not a place to arrive to.  It’s not an accomplishment. It is a verb.  It’s an action that we choose to take each day in our lives to be the best version of ourselves in all that God has called us to be.  

I can get out of balance when I choose not to do what is necessary to be the best version of myself.  Sometimes it’s because I get lazy, or I get excited about a work project or something else that causes me to neglect the other things I know I should be doing.  And you know what? It’s ok. As long as you can bring yourself back.

Think of it as if you were balancinging on a curb.  If you lean one way, you are ok as long as you lean back the other way.  If you don’t, you fall. If you fall, you are no longer balancing.

So how do you know when life is getting a bit unbalanced?  Let me tell you a secret. Your calendar won’t cue you into this.  Balance has nothing to do with your time and where it is spent. I can feel balance in my finances by only spending 3 hours a month in that area of my life.  

You will know you are out of balance by the little things that stress you out.  The undone things in your life. The feelings of guilt.

Yep, feelings of guilt can be healthy.  I know as a mom we are told to avoid mom guilt.  No one likes to feel unpleasant feelings. But they are there for a reason.  Listen to them and take action. These feelings of guilt can get unhealthy when we push them down and put our head in the sand.  But if we ask ourselves, why we are feeling that way and make a plan to course correct, then gult can be a powerful tool to help you stay on  the intentional track that you want to be on.

So, if you have been experiencing any of these things, the steps I have for you to reclaim balance for yourself will help.

  • Feeling guility about things you are not doing
  • Super stressed about money, or things that need to be done at home
  • Gaining weight
  • Feeling out of touch with your husband, or other relationship
  • Felling disconnected with God

Any of these ringing true for you?

Now before we get into what to do about it.  I want to first say, that there is no shame. No one is every going to feel 100% balanced and good with every area of life all the time.  If you can realate to the feelings above all it means is that you are normal. You are not doing anything wrong. It is just life this side of heaven.  In fact, if you are feeling any of these things….count it as a blessing. Thank God that he has put a warning system inside us called emotions. They help us from driving completely off the rails.  

Ok, enough with that.  Let’s get into what to do about it.

Simply put, lean into it.  If you feel like you are not being a good mom, ask yourself….what does me look like as a good mom?  Notice the question is what does it look like when you are a good mom….not what your neighbor or the other girl in your kids class’s mom is doing that you are not.  We are all different. We do things different. Let’s not compare ourselves to eachother, let’s just get to know ourselves. What does it look like when you are your best at being a mom?  What does it look like when you need to step up your game?

When you define what better would be in any area that you feel is lacking….do it.

Not sure what area is lacking but you just know you are feeling out of wack?  Pull out your journal…let’s go through each area of life. Faith, marriage, parenting, career, home, health, finances, friendships/fun.

Journal out what the best version of you does in each of these areas.  This is what the Life Balance course is all about. Helping you identify these things and more importantly, make a plan to get there.

But here is the thing.  You have to make the effort to do it.  Otherwise you are not listening to the warning signs and trust me.  I have been there and you don’t want to see where that leads. It’s not pretty.

If you are finding yourself needed to recalibrate your balance, now is great time to do it.  The holidays are fast appraoching and can magnify anything that is not getting the attention that it needs in your life.  So take the 15 minutes or so and go through this exercise now and start making a plan to bring things back into balance now. 

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Episode 208: How To Dream Again with Angie McNulty

Episode 208: How To Dream Again with Angie McNulty

Do you have a dream for your life?  We talk a lot about goals on this podcast, but what about something bigger?  Maybe God has planted something in your heart that you are longing for or maybe you have been so busy and just trying to keep things moving forward that you have forgotten how to dream.  In this episode, you’ll learn how to start dreaming again, how to gain clarity around your dream, and how to begin to move toward it.  I am joined by our guest, Angie McNulty a coach that specializes in helping working moms as a life, financial, and leadership coach.  She is a John Maxwell certified Coach and we are talking through the differences between a goal and a dream, how to involve God in your dreaming process, and how to start taking action to make your dream your reality.

About Our Guest

Angie is a life, financial and leadership coach with her specialty being in helping working moms to find peace and balance so they can achieve their goals without the guilt. She is a wife, mother of three kids (14, 13 & 10), and two dogs. She loves self-development; whether it be reading books, seminars, workshops, or podcasts.

She has been coaching since 2013. Became a certified coach in 2017 at iPEC (Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching). She is also a Dave Ramsey Preferred Coach and will finish her John Maxwell Coaching Certification in August 2019, which means she has more skills and tools to share with her clients.

Angie offers individual coaching, group coaching, training, workshops, team building & speaking.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

How to dream, build your dreams into your goals & still keep life balance.

  • Creating a vision for your dream – schedule 10 minutes a day to spend time with your dream and God
  • Using that vision to create your goals – lifetime > 5 years > 1 year > 1 month > 1 week > daily
  • Taking your goals to put into your everyday life – putting your goals in your calendar
  • Are you willing to pay the price for your dreams? – not just financially, sacrifice of time, giving up other things in life, making a commitment to your dream
  • Cost of letting your dream die 

Angie has graciously provided a discount to our podcast listeners!  You can get into her Putting Your Dreams To The Test program at a discount!  Use Your Life Rocks at checkout to apply the discount.  Click here to learn more

Weekly Success Planning Course

Get the course inside the free Your Life Rocks app available in your app store.  Learn all about this critical system to help you create balance, plus begin planning for your success with our weekly planning tool inside the app!

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On the show we talk about the goal setting process that you can find in the Weekly Success Planning course.  You can access the course for free inside the Your Life Rocks app or by going to www.WeeklySuccessPlanning.com 

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Episode 194: Summer Refresh Week One-Pump It Up

Episode 194: Summer Refresh Week One-Pump It Up

Ready to be refreshed?  Over the next 7 week’s I’ll guide you through a weekly focus both on the podcast and in the app designed to reenergize, provide focus, and clarity to the priorities in your life.  Because it’s summer, it’s all about having fun!

Let’s get started with week 1!  Be sure to get the Your Life Rocks app for working Christian moms.  In there you will find a ton of resources plus, the bonus content for this podcast series.  The app and bonus content is totally free

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Episode 191: Making it Your Best Summer

Episode 191: Making it Your Best Summer

If you missed last week, we talked about how to create the most awesome summer for your family but today we are talking all about you!  How are you going to make this summer your best summer yet?  I have you covered!  In this episode, I’m giving you some tips and tricks to help you really focus in on your self-care in ways that don’t feel selfish, take a lot of time or money.  This one is for you!

Action Items and Tips From the Show

  • Do your planning-planning is self-care
  • Refresh your morning routine
  • Plan your spiritual walk 
    • Check out the article in May’s Lifestyle Guide in the app for ideas
    • Get a new Devotional
    • Find a new Worship playlist
    • Take Prayer Walks
  • Take care of your health-Make yourself a priority 
    • Looking to lose some weight or just get your eating dialed in?  Try the program I swear by!  It’s called lean.  Get started by going to yourliferocks.com/lean
    • When you join Life Balance Membership in the month of June, you’ll get immediate access to my training and workbook to help you make meal planning simple!  Get started by going to LifeBalanceMembership.com or upgrade right inside your app.
  • What have you always wanted to do?
    • Swim?  Hike? Lake vacation?  Do it!
  • Plan fun things with friends
    • Summer events/concerts
    • Outside dining
    • Invite them over for a patio party

Want to learn about the program I did to loose the weight?

This program has changed my life and I know it will do the same for you too!  Click here to learn more.

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