Episode 239: Understanding Your Enneagram, Change, and Stress with Erin Slutsky

Episode 239: Understanding Your Enneagram, Change, and Stress with Erin Slutsky

Over the last serval weeks, we have all been faced with change and stress on so many different levels.  Today we are talking with Enneagram expert and mom coach, Erin Slutsky from Mom Sense Coaching.  She is helping us working moms look at how we have reacted and handled the changes caused by Covid-19 so we can learn more about ourselves and how to show up as the best version of ourselves in uncertain situations.  Because Erin is so awesome, she is gifting you a free 30-minute coaching session! https://calendly.com/talkwitherin 

You can also read more wisdom and tips from Erin in our Lifestyle Guide found in the Your Life Rocks app.

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About Our Guest

Erin is a mom of four very different and wonderfully unique daughters ages 15-23. And a grandmother of one adorable granddaughter! My husband (Aaron) and I have been married for over 28 years.  She is also a nurse, an accredited Enneagram practitioner, and MOPS International mentor and coach with over 20 years of experience. I understand child development and family dynamics. Her love for moms and desires to empower them for the world’s most important job is what makes my heartbeat. Teaching, coaching, and equipping mothers of all types using the enneagram has been the key to helping moms see their world differently. Once they become more self-aware, they become confident, courageous, and calm in their parenting.

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Episode: 238 Creating Your New Normal With Jenny Stemmerman

Episode: 238 Creating Your New Normal With Jenny Stemmerman

What if instead of going back to normal, you used this opportunity to hit the reset button on different areas of your life and create a new normal? Well, that is what we are talking about today.  I’m going to walk you through some self-coaching questions to help you create your new normal.  It’s time to lean on God and let him be the constant when everything else around us is changing.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

Questions to ask yourself:

Question 1:  Do you believe that it’s possible to hit the reset button and create something different?

Question 2:  What areas do you want to hit the reset button?  This question might be best answered during your prayer time.  Are you up for a prayer walk?

Question 3:  What would that new normal look like for that area of life?  To help you answer this question, take the free Next 90-Days goal setting course found inside the Your Life Rocks app or go to YourLifeRocks.com/Next90Days

 

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Episode 236: Dealing With The Stress In Us With Dr. Mariam Coaster

Episode 236: Dealing With The Stress In Us With Dr. Mariam Coaster

Are you feeling stressed?  A, ya.  I bet you are.  In light of everything going on in our world, I thought it would be best to revisit my conversation with a fellow working mom, Dr. Mariam Coaster. In this episode, we are talking all about our internal relationship with stress and how our relationship with God plays into it. Join us, as Mariam shares practical tips on how we can self-assess our stress and give you strategies to show up as your best self when we find ourselves at our worst. This is part one of a two-part series. Join us next week as we move the conversation to discuss stress and our relationships.

About Our Guest

Mariam Coaster Ph.D., LMFT (InRelationship.us; mariamcoaster.com) is a wife to a wonderful husband, and mother to two beautiful children, a two-year-old boy, and a 3-month-old girl. Professionally, she has a doctorate in neuroscience and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She primarily works with couples and women at her private practice in Franklin, TN. She is passionate about helping people grow towards healing and restoration in their closest relationships. She is also the co-founder of InRelationship, and a marriage workshop called 7 Conversations to Enrich your Marriage. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family, cooking up a new-found recipe, and being actively involved in her church.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

Stress is a God-given opportunity to grow in humility, wisdom, and connection.

  • Humility because we recognize that we are not ultimately in control of our lives.

  • Wisdom because we can receive greater perspective and insight about our relationships.

  • Connection because God never intended for us to go through this life on our own.

Identifying stress in ourselves and our relationships. There are three internal stress indicators that God created in everyone:

1) Feelings: what emotions are coming up about God, ourselves, and others in this stressful situation?

2) Thoughts: what beliefs and cognition are coming up about God, ourselves and others regarding this stressful situation?

3) Body sensations – where in your body do you notice the stress? [Our brain processes stress by initiating the fight, flight or freeze mechanism. It also initiates us to seek out connection during stressful times.]

The internal stress indicators help access heart issues.

A heart issue is a desire to rely on or trust in anything more than God himself. Examples include a pride, self-righteousness, self-reliance, desperate need for approval, control, power, false identity, etc. Even good desires, when they become ruling or dominating desires, will become a stressor in relationships.

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Learn More About Our Guest

Mariam Coaster
Occupation:
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Email:
mariam@mariamcoaster.com
Website
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Episode 226: How To Observe The Sabbath In A Busy Life with Marilyn Paul

Episode 226: How To Observe The Sabbath In A Busy Life with Marilyn Paul

Yes, we all know that we should observe the Sabbath and keep it holy.  And yes, we all are living incredibly busy lives and if you are like me, it is hard to stop and take the time to rest.  

In this episode, we are diving into this topic.  While we usually are talking about how to get more done as a working mom….but this is an important topic for us to dive into.

I am joined by organizational change management expert and author of Oasis in Time, Marilyn Paul.  She walks us through not only the importance of taking the time to stop and connect but also the steps to making this a reality for you in your life.

Action Items and Tips From the Show

  1.  Creating Sabbath time is possible for people, even though they think they have too much to do.  
  2.  The word Sabbath comes from the Hebrew word Shabbat and that means Stop.  Stopping is hard for most of us and stopping to truly reflect and listen deeply to what is speaking to us or calling to us, is very hard.  
  3. It’s partly hard because we are often tired and overwhelmed so we avoid exactly what we need.  
  4. Remembering the Sabbath is one of the Ten Commandments, so we need to take this idea of stopping seriously
  5. I interviewed 65 people from many different backgrounds and faiths and found five key pathways to bringing Sabbath into our lives.
    1.  Begin and End
    2.  Plan and Protect
    3. Disconnect from screens to reconnect to self, others and God
    4. Slow down to savor 
    5. Let go of achieving to rest, reflect and play

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Episode 222: 3 Ways To Help You Achieve Your Goals

Episode 222: 3 Ways To Help You Achieve Your Goals

Welcome to the new year!  Are you someone that sets goals for the new year?  Maybe go through the process of selecting a word? Whether you are someone that sets intentions or specific goals in your career, health, finances, or any other area of life, the three tips shared in this episode will help you crush them!  

Action Items and Tips From the Show

  1. Each morning decide how you are going to live out your word for the year that day.  Make a list of the three things that you will do and add them to your calendar.
  2. Lifestyle change vs goals Recognize that it is a difference and they need different approaches.
  3. Stay close to God with your goals.

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Episode 221:  A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Episode 221: A Different Way Of Setting Goals

Last week we wrapped up our series that lead us to Christmas called walking with Jesus.  I loved hearing from other working moms about their faith and all that Jesus as done in their lives.  

Next week we are starting a new series diving deep into some areas of life that you might have the most pressing goals to achieve for the new year.  I didn’t say new year resolution, but it might be that for you, or just some intentions for the new year, goals for your life or really whatever you want to call it, it doesn’t matter.  But if you are looking for improvement in your health, finances, home or other area of your life, you want to make sure you hit subscribe if you haven’t already so you don’t miss any of the great experts we have lined up.

So, with last week ending a series and next week starting a series, we are in a week of transition.  And really that is what this week has been all about….meaning the week between Christmas and New years.  It is my favorite week of the year because it is quiet, there isn’t that much going on and I can just breath, think, and be.

Every year I use this week to reflect on areas of my life, give gratitude, dream a little and just talk to God about bigger things than I normally get to on a daily bais.  I go through a process that allows me better insight to setting goals and getting ready to accomplish them.  

It is this exact system that I have been teaching to our Life Balance members this week.  If you are not a life Balance member, you can still join us! The great thing is that we are walking through a pre-recorded course that you can start really at anytime.  It’s a 7-day new program that has been added to the membership and it will help you get clear on your goals in a whole new way.  

In this episode, I wanted to share with you one of the priciples that we teach in this progam.  It’s a different way of setting goals than most people do.

Often when we set goals, they are out of pain of some kind.  For example, maybe you want to lose weight because you are not comfortalbe in your clothes, someone has said something to you or you experienced something that was hurtful.  Maybe you had a doctor appointment and the results were scary and it has caused you to look differently at your health. Maybe you are setting goals around your finances because you are tired of working hard and not getting ahead.  Your tired and want to afford a vacation or you are feeling the pinch of debt.

When we feel this pain or discomfort, it moves us to make a change.  When we decide to make a change, we start looking for the solution or a recipe to follow.  This is where things get complicated. Do you know how many diet plans are out there that you could follow?  I don’t either because there are new ones popping up all the time. I always say the best health program out there is the one that you will stick to.  And that is just for health, the same can be said for any area of life that you want to improve.  

Now, there is nothing wrong with seeking outside information, learning, or finding someone that can help you.  But often times we miss a huge step in the process. We forget that if we really want to change, it takes power…willpower.  And guess what? We are not nearly as powerful as our maker is. How much easier would it be to reach your goals if the Spirit of God was working in your favor to help you get there?

Seeking God in our goal setting process is critical for success in achieving it, but more than that, when we are on board with God’s will for any situation, the peace and grace is unmeasurable.

Bringing our desires to God is the first step.  Letting his grace extend past what we are capable of will help us get to where we want to go.  The other awesome things about journeying toward where you want to go with God, is that his grace overflows to other areas of your life.

That is the second point to what we are doing in Life Balance, we are looking at all areas of life, not just the one that is causing pain.  Do you know why it is causing pain? Becuase it has been neglected. When we set a goal based on our pain points alone, we tend to shift the focus to the one area of life and that can set us off balance and strart to neglect other areas of our life….you guessed it…they will be come future pain points.  It starts to create a cycle. 

Think about it as if you were spinning plates on poles like they do in the circus.  When you go the method of focusing on the one area that needed the most, you are not paying attention to the other plates spinning until they are just about ready to crash.  Then you have to rush to rescue the other areas before they come crashing to the ground.

Instead, if you have a system to keep the plates all going, and you are able to calmly check in on each one, give it a little of what it needs to keep going, it becomes much more managable.  And when life happens and the unexpected happens, if you followed the first step, you have the Holy Spirit by your side to help you.

That is exactly what we are doing inside Life Balance Membership.  Teaching you the system to do just that. That is what has always been in the membership.  The new course that we are going through right now, is really helping you first look to God for a vision for the year and then assessing each area of your life to get a direction toward what is needed to keep that area healthy.  Once we go through each area, then it’s all about taking that direction you have discoved and bringing it back to God. This prepares you to be able to live it out with the Life Balance System.

 

 

This is the kind of exercise that we are doing for each area of life.  It’s real. It’s not sexy. But it give you a clear vision of where you are and what you need to be focused on.  

Now we we are setting goals in Life Balance, it’s not to solve all the things.  It is about making progress in 90-days. That is the goal.  

I have said this before, but in case you have not heard me say it or you just need a reminder:

You can set goals in all areas of your life….and you should.  Goals are different than a life change. Want to lose 50 lbs? That is a life change not a goal.  Looking for a new career? That’s a life change. Having a baby? That is a life change. While you can have multiple goals, I don’t recommend multiple life changes.  You will go into survive mode and it’s not only difficult, it will painful.

Your life change might be to lose 50lbs but your 90-day health goal might be to focus on your water everyday, sticking to your eating plan, or adding in physical activity.  

I hope these tips help you as you start to look toward the new year.  Let me recap what we talked about.

  1.  Look to God and his strength before you start after your goals in your own.
  2. Look to set goals in all areas of your life, not just one.
  3. A life change is different than a goal.  Don’t do more than one life change at a time.

Like I said at the begininning of this episdoe, it’s not too late to join us inside of Life Balance Membership and go through this 7-day process for yourself.  You can upgrade right inside the app or by going to Life Balance Membership.com

 

Next week we are back and starting our new series!  If you are new to the show, our new series is reflective of what we are all about.  I’ll be brining you expert guests in each of the 8 areas of life to help inspire you to be the best version of yourself in each area.  Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it!

 

Until next week, keep building a life that rocks

 

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